What matters most to you in your absolute 'yes' list in life?
@Perspectives (7131)
Canada
July 14, 2007 9:58pm CST
My life has gone through a lot of transformational changes the last couple of years. Consequently I had to pause and really think about how I was going to keep the different areas of my wheel of life in balance and prioritize what and who is at the top of my 'absolute yes' list.
It started when my Mom passed away two years ago this April. I have no siblings and few close family members left. My hubby's family bonds are the same. So we have each other and our 5 cats and 2 dogs as our main family unit. So needless to say we are on the top of each other's yes list. But then so are a close circle of friends that we call our 'soul family.'
When my hubby's health and well-being was compromised a year and a half ago...assisting him and being there was..and still is high on my absolute yes list. Thankfully he is doing much better now and I am glad I could support him the way he always does with me.
My continued spiritual growth is at the top of my yes list, and being able to make a positive difference in the lives of others is also a high priority. Living life to ammass huge amounts of money...not so high...driving a bit fast car for appearances sake...not too interested in that.
However, having a safe, reliable vehicle..very high on my list. Creative satisfcation and meaningful work...very high. Staying healthy and strong as I age..yep right up there. Anyway I would be interested in hearing what fellow Mylotters have to say..you do it so well.
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
2 Aug 07
My absolute 'YES' list: My spiritual growth with healing processes on self and on others! I can not separate these things so integrated naturally!
My life has turns and slopes and hills and valleys... It is really a good going till the date and I have never felt regrate or frustation(THANK GOD AND MY SPIRITUAL MASTERS), depression or even a big set back: Life must be lived and so there would be problems and issues which are tackled mostly few are remaining till the date to dissolve and few were hidden in dep concious,which have come up in recently!
So on hands I am with my healing too! And it is fascinating experience!
Well my family is closely attached with me... my dad (87 yrs -LIVING), Mom(82 yrs -LIVING), two 50+ younger brothers and their spouse, one younger sister(49 yrs) and our's six young ones just ready to fly in the sky of free existence by themselves! But we are all on each other's YES list and it is really well neated with love and affection actively!
So all is set with my top line 'yes' list and enjoying!
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
5 Aug 07
It doesn't surprise me that your spiritual growth is at the top of your YES list...and your energy/healing work. It sounds as though you and your family have managed to successfully keep your life in balance. What a comendable thing to achieve within a world that can appear outwardly chaotic. I completely agree with you though...that it is possbile to 'live in this world but not of it' and maintain spiritual groundedness.
You have your priorities established and appear to walk your talk and live an authentic life. You must be a great living example to those who know and love you.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
15 Jul 07
Oh me ya done it again I have to think! lol
of course family and freinds Getting low on both.
I got my SUV so am set there big motoer to pull me up the hills when I go see mom.
Other than that I have no up list . maybe adding friends like you to that list huh?
Blessings and happiness
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
16 Jul 07
Oh Lakota12 I doubt you have any trouble in 'thinking.' You always add some good insights and everyday wisdom to the discussion.
I am glad you have a big SUV to pull you up the hills while visiting your Mom...I bet she looks forward to seeing your rumble wagon pull up to her place.
Thank you for that...I am glad to have been able to add a good freind like you to my list too...and that won't change.
Luv, light and blessings to you too!
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I like the idea of a "yes" list, and actually my situation is similar to yours. My hubby is number one, followed by our 4 kitties. On my yes list is good health, lots of stress-free, free time, time to observe nature. Also time to do good things for animals. Material items are not high priorities here. A functional, paid off car. Clothes that I like and that are comfortable. Fresh vegetables and good drinking water. I think that covers a good deal of it.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
16 Jul 07
Wow Geminigirl...you sound like a gal after my own heart with a lifestyle similar to ours.
It is great fun to read a post where I go; 'Yes, uh huh, yep, right one, absolutely, for sure! That is what I was doing as I read your absolute yes list.
You are some kind of an on-line soul sister...has to be that because I don't have any siblings!
Anyway, thanks for your very important 'yes' list...you've got your priorites straight all right.
Hope you, your hubby and 4 furry family members continue to enjoy the best life has to offer!
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@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
15 Jul 07
As selfish as this may sound, on a quest for transformation and spiritual growth, I am on the top of the absolute yes list. It cannot be any other way. I used to say to people that you cannot love someone until you love yourself. I still agree with those words as the degree you love other people is only measurable in terms of how much you love yourself. In the path of transformation an enormous amount of self reflection is required which can take you, and did take me, into very dark places. I could not do justice to a husband or children and undertake such a quest.
So high on my yes list is to be the absolute best I can be and in the process perhaps touch people in a compassionate and awakened way.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
16 Jul 07
Hello again Tetchie,
Once again I honor the way you speak your truth in your own voice. Your additions to this site are always touching...and they reveal the deeply transformative work you are doing.
I fully understand what you are saying about the importance of embracing the essence of who we are and living from that center rather than allowing ourselves to be defined by anything outer. I have walked, and continue to walk a similar path...including the dark places. The process of transforming shadows into light is a daunting process that requires an immense of commitment and respect what you are doing.
I wrote about the first part of my journey in a 500 page manuscript I am in the process of marketing. It would be most enjoyable to chat with you about your journey...and mine. Kindred spirits do not come along every day. When I became a member of Mylot a month ago I set the intent to find like minded others...and here you are. I look forward to continuing on-line chats and hearing more about your unfolding spiritual journey if you care to share.
From what you write it feels as though you are succeeding in the process of touch people in a compassionate and awakened way. Your presence at the Perspectives sharing circle is a blessing and I thank you.
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@DanaMark (807)
• United States
17 Jul 07
My wife is at the top of my "yes" list. We have been married 38 years. We do so many things together. I can't imagine life without her. We also have one son and daughter-in-law along with two young grandsons. They live within 10 minutes of us, so our continued good relationship with them is very high on our list. We enjoy our time with them and are happy they are close by.
Since I am newly retired, financial independence is another priority. We planned well, so we are fine. I can't imagine having to worry about finances from day to day.
An adequate place to live is also important. We own our house so that is taken care of. That is one of the reasons I don't like summer storms here in Nebraska. They could blow our house away.
A reliable vehicle is also a necessity. We have places to go and things to see in our retirement.
And spiritual life is also very important. We are able to get back to church now that I'm not working until 4 a.m. Sunday mornings. We are involved in Bible Study again. These used to be a big part of our lives. It feels good to be back.
These are not listed in order of importance, just in the order I thought of them. So spirituality is not the least important on my "yes" list. I wanted to clarify that in case God reads this. lol.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
18 Jul 07
Well DanaMark it is wonderful to read your 'yes' and priority list. Thanks for participating again.
Your wheel of life sounds like it is balanced and rolling along in the flow of life. May you and all the members of your family and church community continue to enjoy the blessings of both financial security and what sounds like an abundantly satisfying life.
I know it may not be our your absolute yes list...but it sounds like tennis and golf also add to your satisfaction and enjoyment. If you are like most golfers we know...golf is a pretty important 'yes' to a lot of them we know!LOL
Enjoy...and let me know how your tooth situation is coming along.
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@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I hate to say it but my husband is my number one concern right now without him i would be at a loss. Like you I dont have much family of my own left. So he is very important to me. My second need in my life is god and he should be first i know this. I am not committed to a church but I do pray and have faith. It may not get me to heaven but it helps me on a daily basis. I believe without faith and hope bad things come your way. My friends rank high on my list of importance. I value my friends and need them in my life as well. Without my friends support i dont know where i would be. I would have to say money is last on my list because im not a needy person as long as i have the important things I need daily. Food,gas,and a place to live Im fine. Oh I forgot to add my job is important to me without that i would loss everything ive worked for all these years. Thanks for reading.
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@kcbomba (616)
• United States
15 Jul 07
what matters is the fact that life's good ,and , we got to live it to the fullest.
Always be the best you can , and don't fall apart if everything is not falling into place.
Priority basically , should be placed in the things of God almighty ; cause he said seek ye first my kingdom and everyother thing shall be added unto you.
He created everything that is ,which weren't and he made the be ;so if he hasn't created you and those things around you , you won't be prioritizing nothing .
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
16 Jul 07
Well my friend it sounds as if you have your priorities straight...good for you!
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
What matters most to me in my absolute "yes" list in life?
Life.
Self in inner peace.
Family and friends in true unconditional love.
Complete freedom in whatever form is best for me.
Satisfaction guaranteed ... warranty backed by my full knowing and my true acceptance of mySelf.
Full conscious sharing in my relationship with ... All That Is.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
Wow...another thoughtful response. You certainly have a strong sense of what truly matters in life...beyond anything external. I would definitely say you have your absolute 'yeses' clear as very few do.
Hopefully others who might read your comments will pause for a moment and consider more of what really matters in life as you have.
Raia
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