My Son Needs A Haircut But Is Afraid To Have Someone Else Do It
By maddysmommy
@maddysmommy (16230)
United States
July 23, 2007 8:04pm CST
My son's hair is all bent out of shape after his father had a go at it a few months back, using hair clippers and scissors. Now that it's grown it's all out of shape and I want to take him to a barber or salon, to have it properly cut and styled.
When he was younger I took him to my hairdresser (in Samoa) to have his hair trimmed and styled and he liked it. Now he refuses to have it done and wants his daddy to do it. I don't mind but I was thinking of getting it properly done first and then his father can trim it as it grows and keep the shape and style.
What should I do? Did you have trouble getting your children's hair cut by a hairdresser/barber? what did you do to convince them that they do a good job too? or did you decide to just keep on cutting it yourself?
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13 responses
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
oftentimes, kids are hard to convince that they needed their hair to be cut and need to bring them to the salon or barber shop. i remember my little brother who was crying and crying when the barber is cutting his hair. maybe because they are afraid of the scissors and didnt trust the person cutting their hair. your son feels comfort to his dad, thats why he wants him to cut his hair. maybe you just have to explain to him thoroughly that in order to be handsome, a proper barber should cut his hair.
its what we did to our brother and soon he even schedule himself to go to the barber shop.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Yes I think more explanations are in order and I might have to add a treat on the end of it too. Thanks larskie!
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@quatelmon (955)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Also, maybe if dad got his hair cut at the same time that may help. So that his dad can show him how "grown ups" get their hair cut, too. And tell him about McDonalds as the reward for grownups! Good luck!
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
24 Jul 07
I think it is common sight children do not want to have their hair cut, either at the barber, hairdresser or saloon. However, they are fine with their parents or grandparents cutting their hair for them. The small kids at my home are treated to ice-cream after they have their hair cut at the saloon. They grow out of it once they start attending school.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I may have to use the icecream treat as a way of convincing him to go through it. I know once he gets use to the same hairdresser or barber things will get a little easier. Thanks whyaskq.
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@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
24 Jul 07
My son is almost 4 and in the past every time we would take him to get his hair cut he would throw a fit in the chair, screaming and crying and just flipping out. It was embarassing but it had to be done! Usually the stylist understands because a lot of kids are like that. We took our son to get another hair cut a month and a half ago expecting the screams and cries but he sat there like a little angel, not crying one time!! So I'm sure once your son gets used to it and realizes it's nothing to be scared of he will be fine!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Yup I'm sure your right. Once he gets us to this barber or hairdresser i'm sure it will get easier. Thanks DRoddy!
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@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I was a stylist a while back and dealt with many kids that didn't want it done.:) If you do take him to a barber, make sure they make him feel very comfortable and that they don't force him if he really doesn't want it done. It will scare him for other times and if he squirms, it could make the barber mess up. I doubt that a good barber will mess up though. I think the most important thing is to make him comfortable and try to get him laughing. Show him the different tools and maybe have a toy handy. I think distraction works well in most kids.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Good points there flight and lucky for you that you were a hair stylist. Makes things a lot easier I bet. Making him comfortable and keeping him distracted are good things, especially showing him the tools that they will use to cut his hair. Good thinking and thanks!
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Jul 07
If your son is not convinced the i think you can give it a try with a hair trimmer. You can adjust the length so that it cuts uniformly. Trimmer is good. My son is 2 and a hlf yrs old. I once took him to a kid's saloon. But, he was just crying and did not stop crying until we were back. Now, i take my husband's help and i try to trim it. it comes near to perfection. I like it and my child does not cry at all becasue i keep him busy with some toys.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
We do have hair timmers/clippers and my husband has cut his hair twice already but now that is has grown it is all out of shape. I would rather get it done properly once, and then my husband can work from that and keep it tidy and trimmed. Thanks lavenderbloom!
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@delords (41)
•
24 Jul 07
very many kids are really hard to convince that a good hairdresser or barber should cut their hair for them,but it will take a lot of words to make them agree to that you have to make them know how good it is to get ones hair cut and that they are going to look pretty good after that and when going to the barber shop make sure you get them something to relax their minds maybe something eatable and even when the hairs are being cut make sure you keep telling that he is looking pretty.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Thank you delords, I will do that :) lots of encouragement is good!
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@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
24 Jul 07
If your son needs a haircut, and your husband does a good job doing it, just let him cut it. Then when your son gets a little older you can try taking him to the barber
Or better yet let your husband take him to the barber and let him watch his dad get a haircut and tell your son look at daddy hes getting his hair cut now its your turn. This might help your son if he sees his dad getting his hair cut.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Yup I agree with the second point. I think it would be much better if his daddy took him when he gets his hair done. Thanks babystar!
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I really like the idea of the posters above who suggested that perhaps Daddy could take your son for the haircut. Another approach might be to see if he would want to go and get it cut so as to surprise Daddy when Daddy returns! He could get a surprise haircut and perhaps help to prepare a special welcome back card or special meal for Daddy!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Now thats another good idea. I could do that before he gets hom August 1st, hmmm he might go then thanks crazynurse.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
I've never been into a parlor to cut or trim my hair. My mum usually does it for me - and she's pretty good, too. But I'm curious about having my hair cut in a parlor. I wonder if it'll be the same - I'll just lose a small amount of cash though.
But why else would I want my hair be cut or trim by parlor folks when I got mum? Hehe...
Maybe if your cutie son doesn't like at all to have his hair cut in a parlor, your husband (or perhaps you) can practice how to style a hair. My mum said it's not that hard.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
30 Jul 07
All the more reason for my husband not to cut it as he has been over the last year and its all bent out of shape LOL
Its good that your mom cuts yours, makes it easier and saves you $$.
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
25 Jul 07
It is strange because your son has been to your hairdresser to have his hair trimmed and styled before that he should know roughly about it. Maybe he is afraid of the new barber won’t do the good job. It is better talk to him to see what bothers him. All the best!
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
28 Jul 07
Yeah it is strange but I think its because he was use to our other hairdresser. Now that we are here in USA, we just have to keep on taking him to one until he gets use to them. Thanks for responding madona!
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
25 Jul 07
I don't have a kid, but this reminded me of something funny. A friend's kid went and cut his fringe himself! so it's all weird and waaaaaay too short. I guess kids think they know what they want, and then take ownership of the whole thing!
what a disaster sometimes! though I would have had a great time laughing at him if he were my kid. heh.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
25 Jul 07
My son has actually gone and cut his hair here and there if he sees it sticking up. I have told him how to wet it an comb it down, but he thinks getting the scissors and cutting it himself helps LOL he uses his junior craft scissors to do it and only moments later do I notice i.e when I find a lock of hair on the sink LOL too funny!
@kimthedane (945)
• Denmark
25 Jul 07
Lol. Mad mommy. Who is in charge in your house? A five year old boy is making decissopns for you. Stan up for ya self hunni, and tell him he got no choice, but to go to hairdresser first. He might not like it but he will when it is over and done with. Then you will find it easier in future too.
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@zhengdafeng (130)
• China
28 Jul 07
cut whatever him like
everyone have hie own style
just keep on cutting yourself.
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