When mothers are not always right after all.....

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When i was still a child, I looked up to my mom as someone who knows what she is saying or doing. And they always say that a mother knows best. But now that i have a child of my own, and now that i'm a lot wiser and mature, I had to open my eyes and accept that my mom can be wrong too sometimes. Why have i started this discussion? Because as of this moment, my mother and my brother have a very ugly and heart aching feud between them. To the point that my mom disowned my brother as her son. She even told me and my 2 other sisters repeatedly, that when she dies, she expects the 3 of us(my sisters) to not allow my brother to come to her funeral. That's how serious and bad things are between them. It all started with my sister-in-law(my brother's wife). As my mom firmly told us, she had done and said things that had caused a feud and great misunderstanding and heartache between my elder sister and her husband, my father, and my younger sister. To make it short, my mother clearly told us that my sister-in-law is a snake hiding behind an angelic face. I can't blame my brother if he's protecting his wife from my mom's wrath. And because of that protection, he also directed our mom's anger and hatred to him. As each day passes, things are getting much worse between them. At first, our family thought that they can patch up things between them. But obviously that's not the case. It even came to a point that my mom have become always paranoid and suspicious of my younger sister's moves and mine. Whenever my cell phone is in my hand, my mom will immediately ask me if I was trying to make contact with my brother and my sister-in-law. To be honest, I'm starting to get tired and sick of her questions. It's not healthy anymore. And to make it worse, she's hypertensive and this ugly thing between her and her brother is making her sick before our very eyes. Why did I say that mothers are not always right after all, because it came to a point that she directly told me that if ever she learns that I'm trying to talk to my brother and his wife, she will be mad at me too. That I will be included in her wrath. I felt a great disappointment in my heart at that time. Because i felt that she's taking my right to talk to my brother. I know that she's mad and hurt, but i don't think that it's not right to tell me that. She's my mom and I love her so much and I'm also very worried about her everyday. But this thing between her and my brother made me realize that she's not right all the time. That there are things that she does and say that doesn't agree with my conscience anymore. It hurts me to think that way about her but I have to be honest with myself. She's my mom but she can also make mistakes. And I have to learn to accept that, and she also have to learn to accept that. I know that she had done so many great things for our family. But i can't agree with what she is doing to my brother and his family. She is clearly harassing them publicly and cursing them, letting the whole neighborhood know that she is disowining him and wishing that she had never borne him. I'm also worried about my brother's state of mind. He kept saying to his email that he doesn't know what to do anymore. He even changed his phone number and my sister-in-law.My nieces and nephew are starting to feel terrified about my mom. And i just wish that they never learn to hate her. I'm sorry if this is a little personal and I'm not sure if posting this discussion is against mylot's guidelines.