omg!! what gives her the right???!!! be forewarned i am venting.
By carissa765
@carissa765 (1097)
United States
September 1, 2007 5:17pm CST
I hate my sister-in-law. I have had it up to here and just can't take it anymore.
Okay first let me explain to you about how "she" is, and why I hate her. She took my brother away from me and my family. She never lets him come over to our house, she has even gone so far as to tell him that if he goes out with me he can live with me! His own flesh and blood!
Another thing, she is always telling me that I need to do this or I need to do that to raise my children.. She doesn't even raise her own children. My brother does it all. The girl did not even know how to cook when they first got together.
Her youngest son calls her aunt mom. Because she always has him when my brother is at work and her fat lazy a$$ is doing nothing but spending his money.
Sorry I am ranting and raving, but I mean for real WHAT GIVES HER THE RIGHT? What gives her the right to tell me how to raise my kids when she doesn't even know how to raise her own? What gives her the right to take my brother away from his family? What would you do if this happened to you?
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Sep 07
He is but as I said before he is just scared of what the bi@$h will do if she leaves or makes him leave. My brother is the foreman at a rather large company, and has worked very hard to get where he is at, and to support her and his 3 kids.
Thank you for taking the time to post and for your advice. I did talk to him by the way, and that is always the response that I get. I care too much about my kids. I always tell him you know you can get a dam# good lawyer.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Sep 07
What I would want to do is against the law but it would feel so good.The only thing you can do is ignore the bit@h.You know she doesn't know how to raise children, and it is up to your brother to put his foot down and come and see his family.Is he the quiet type. Does he make her feel like she is the boss? If so, you should talk to him. Tell him that he should an needs to see you and your mom.And that he can whenever.I know she is a pain , but he is married to her, for now.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
5 Sep 07
At least you have a plan.Take Care.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
5 Sep 07
And I fully intend to follow through with that plan..LOL take care yourself.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Yeah he actually called me this day and he and I discussed all of this. And he says when he is ready he will make her see that he has been the tape that has held this family together all this time. what I want to do is illegal too. And the other thing I want to do I promised not to do until my mom has passed on. So until that day I will have to live with it I guess.
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@Foxxee (3650)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I don't know the full story so I really can't say to much. All I can say is that your sister-in-law is in fact your brothers wife, so what they have is something special. He did marry her, so he must love her.
I'm not saying that to upset you, but you just have to face it.
As for her telling you how to raise your kids, well she doesn't have a right and you should speak up and let her know that you can raise your own kids just fine.
I hate people who try to tell the other parent how to raise their child.
So, speak your mind if she is trying to run your life with the whole kid thing.
As for her being all the other things, well your brother would have to be the one to stand up to her and if not, then maybe he just doesn't see the problem?
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
2 Sep 07
He sees it alright, but only when they fight, my sister-in-law is really good at hiding her own bad points.
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to this discussion.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
4 Sep 07
He actually called me the night that I started this discussion. I told him that he was not seeing the big picture, and he says he was. So maybe he is finally starting to see that this is how it is going to be unless he tells her off.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
2 Sep 07
If this happened to me I'd probably be ranting and raving just like you! Seriously, as someone who believes family is everything, my heart really goes out to you. She has NO right to tell you how to raise your kids, obviously she'd better learn how to raise her own. She IS your brother's wife so all you can really do is stand up to her, don't take her bulls*it and make it a point to contact your brother as much as you can, let her know she's not keeping him away from you or vice-versa. Out of curiosity, what kind of family did she come from? I sure hope things get better for you; feel free to vent to me anytime!
Annie
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Thanks Annie, and like most people I know, her family put the fun in dysfunctional. Anyway I do try to contact him as much as possible, and she hates it and I just laugh. I call him about two times a week and if he doesn't get the messages, who cares, at least she knows I still love my brother and she can't change that.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
24 May 12
I also known someone that also have that kind of bad character and i also hate her. She is the sister in law of my cousin. But i also hate my two sister in law. They only come to our house when they will ask some financial support to my husband even they have their own husband. Specially my sister in law that next to my husband, she is so so arrogant and i really hate her. She always ask financial support to my husband because her husband don't pay their electricity bill. I think its not our problem anymore but when my husband don't give her she will get angry to my husband so my husband will be forced to give her. What a attitude!!
