Are you a visitor?
By coffeeshot
@coffeeshot (3783)
Australia
September 11, 2007 10:38pm CST
After being visited by a friend today, I realised that my fiance and I aren't really the visiting types. We have plenty of friends but we just don't go around for a coffee and a chat or whatever. I have always watched as people come and go at my mum's house visiting, and also as a kid I was always going to friends and family's places for visits. I don't really want to be the homebody type who has friends who have to come to me. I have decided that I will make more of an effort to go visit my friends more often. What about you? Are you a visitor or a homebody?
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12 responses
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Hubby and I are mostly homebodies. We did go out and visit at one time but no one wanted to come to our house so we quit visiting. It was always one way and never both and it got tiring. We love going out but we also like to entertain too. Besides, friendship is a two way street just as any relationship is.
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
26 May 08
Years ago, it was more common to visit with friends in your home, like your parents did.
I'm uncomfortable when people are in my home for too long. If I visit someone, I can't stay with them for more than an hour or two.
I guess that makes me a homebody?
If you enjoy it, inviting friends to your home sounds wonderful.
I had friends visit from Germany. They told me that every weekend they traded visiting on Saturday nights with their friends, giving everyone a chance to be a hostess and be a guest both. That sounds like fun!
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
15 Sep 07
We're homebody people mostly. However we usually are the ones to visit people! They hardly ever come here. We haven't figured that one out yet...we much have a comfortable place for us but uncomfortable to everyone else.
We don't really have friends though that we do things with. Mostly just family.
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
I am a homebody. My husband and I doesn't like the idea of visiting friends because we don't want to bother them during their weekends. As we ourselves wanted some rest and privacy during the weekends we think we should give others what we think we deserve too. However I admit that visiting is a good deed to do. It makes us have more friends and can widen our networking if we are in business. If the time is correct, I don't mind paying a visit to my friends house.
On the contrary, if people are coming to my house I would be very much delighted. I am happy if they want to come and see me, it would be such a pleasure having them. Only they have to tell me in advance so that I am able to prepare for their coming. That's all.
@slickcut (8140)
• United States
26 May 08
Well i like to go visit friends and i like them to come to my house too.i can be either i supposs...I don't just sit home,i go as well...People do drop by and visit and i do the same..I am a people person.I like to visit and like to be visited...I know a woman who use to stay home all the time and people always came to her house,i would call her a homebody,but thats not me.I like it both ways....
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@eagle_f15 (1827)
• Malaysia
26 May 08
Nope I am not the visitor type. I prefer my own home and also to stay at home. I only stay over as a visitor in a conference where my husband and I are put up by the organizers. I am neither a visitor nor do I really like visitors coming to my home. Sorry I might sound selfish but I just don't like things to be out of place and messy.
@AmbiePam (120708)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I'm really not a visitor type person. But when I am, I call ahead and make sure it is OK and convenient to come. There's nothing worse than someone coming with no notice, and the house is a mess and so am I. So I extend that courtesy to other people. LOL
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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12 Sep 07
I used to always be out and visiting friends and family but recently I have found myself more and more becoming a homebody. I know I should make more of an effort but some days I just feel like staying put and entertaining at home. I love it when friends come to visit though :-)
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
when i was younger, yes quite often. and i remember, we also have lots of friends visiting the house my parents used to complain that we're a hub. i used to enjoy it. but i don't enjoy it now. i'm more of a homebody now, very seldom goes out and rarely receives visitors too and i like it that way. maybe when you're older you just want to be left alone doing your own thing enjoying the quiet and peace of solitude.
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@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
12 Sep 07
My husband and I don't visit people either. I'm a total homebody, so I rarely want to leave the house unless I have to or it's something I really want to do. We are the ones visited most of the time, and I guess that's okay, as long as they don't stay for a long time.:P
@raychill (6525)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I'm a total Homebody. Always have been. I just like the comfort of my home and it takes effort for me to leave it. It was school or work or someone convincing me to go out. Even when I've had significant others we always end up just where I go to their place (i've never had anyone like to come to mine..hrmph) and hang around there. I probably should go out more. well I know I should. I just don't.
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
29 May 08
I don't know how I would classify myself. Usually, by the end of a work week, I just want to stay at home or wander through a mall just doing/going where I feel like without any deadline or pressure to talk.
I guess, in a perfect world, I would be both but with the visitor roll being more of an occasional thing.











