How should be a good wife....

I will let you in on a little secret. When a man truly loves a women there is very little she can do that will make him think she is not a good wife. You are expecting far more out of yourself than he is. You work outside the home. No matter what you do that takes a lot of energy. So why would you expect to come home and be energized and ready to do more work? He isn't ready to I'm sure so why should you? You know full well you love your husband. If you are tired there is nothing wrong with that. Your human and you need a rest. Have him help around the house if he isn't already. I can tell you men tend to take the easy road if you let them. If you are willing to do the work well.....he doesn't have to. But that doesn't make him love you any more or less. The real secret to a man's heart is in the bedroom. I know you are tired there too and that is okay. You show him you love him with a smile and talking and I think you will be fine.

Hi and welcome to Mylot.. It sounds like you are spread pretty thin and need to take some 'me-time' so that you will feel less tired and more able to connect with your hubby. My hubs and I have been together for over 17 years and really work at keeping our bond strong and very emotionally intimate...even when we are tired and not particularly amorous due to the demands of life. We constantly tell each other how much we love each other and make sure we both know that we appreciate the many things we do to make life meaningful. Expressing gratitude for his understanding and explaining that you are feeling anxious and overloaded can create a place of emotional intimacy because you are being open and honest. No one can read their partner's minds and create emotional safety comes when two people can admit what is and is not working in life. I would certainly let HIM know that YOU know he would like something more. Explain that that it is not that you don't want that too...but that you are feeling tired and overworked and THAT is the problem...not HIM. Maybe if you took a little time after to work to have a warm bath, breathe deeply, freshen up you would be in a better space to share some meaningful connect time with him. My hubby and I work and live together and know that we have to keep lines of communication open so that things don't build up. Talking openly, lovingly and sharing feelings and problem solving is the way most marriages succeed. Hope some of this provides a few ideas you might be able to apply. Best of luck to you and your beloved, Raia

You are a working woman and surely would not have much of stamina and time to do something special for your husband but here i think your husband has a more proactive role to play. He needs to understand this and should appreciate the efforts being made by you inspite of your busy schedule. One needs rest after a days work and in no way this is being lazy.