What should you do......?

Hello and Hi niushuang. If I in your shoes I would tell her that her mom's nag is true. She care about her daughter's marriage and don't want her child's marriage became corny in other day. Your friend must be a good lady because she still love her husband although she know that he doesn't have good work. But you need to tell her that she will not eat the 'love' everyday to survive and have a good life with their coming family soon. She need to think about that. What she will do if the economy of your country worse and what will happen to her and her children soon. I think, if her husband love her so much he will proceed his study and find a good job with good salary to be a responsible husband to his wife. I really sure that he doesn't want his wife suffer with their poverty. Better if she take her mom's advice. HAPPY LUCKY. **prettyhanan**

hi niushuang. iunderstand your friends condition and their love as well.however i think the girl's parents are also not wrong because every parent want to see their child happy.though money is not above love,however to live a life money is definately required.you tell your friend to ask her boyfriend to work hard and get a good and stable job with a moderate salary first,and then go for marriage.obviously he will want to be a good hubby of hers and for that he should give her a good life.yuor friend needs to support her boyfriend more so that he can get a good job.remember love is very strong.it can make one do impossible things as well.with your friend's support and love e will definately get a good job and then they can marry and live happily.

Well, if the man has no home, job, and a stable life before hand, how can he prove to be a Good husband to her especially if they are considering having kids someday. Personally, I do not blame the parents for being a little leary, as maybe they are afraid of their daughter getting hurt or they would end up having to support the two of them or something. Sometimes I feel people even if they are in Love need to really look over the situation, and decide what is best for them. Sounds like they need to think about waiting until the man is a little more stable in life, before planning any type of future together. So as a friend, you should be there for support, and a shoulder to lean on if need be, and when the time arises, then you can talk to her and try to make her see some sense in her parents concerns to maybe where she can talk with her Fiance and make him see the desires of why he needs to consider being a little more responsible in life before considering such a step in life as this.

Well, if you re the parents of your friend... how would you feel? I believe that he cant change the mind of his soon to be in laws if he wont prove himself to them. They should at least see that their daughter is in good hands. Every parents wants the best for their children. If he will be able to prove himself... then in time they will understand them.

The line " you can;t help who you fall in love with " is so true. But can she really be upset with her parents with the way they are feeling. At any age a parents only wants the best for their child. They are having worries that any parent would be having right now. They think how is this man gone to be able to protect and support their daughter. And I'm sure the parents are also thinking how will this man support a family when they decide to have kids. While this girl only sees love. It's great that they are so in love, but love does not pay the bills. Maybe mom and dad wouldbe mom approving if maybe they put the wedding off for months to a year while this man begins to get on his feet, stable job, a down payment for a home.

you know there comes situation when it becomes difficult for us to make decision.......the situation here is the same.... her parent's loves her and are thinking about her future. so there is no fault in the decision made by her parents. so if the boy really loves her then he should quickly find a good job. the girl should also compromise with the situation, instead of cryin or fighting she should talk to the boy. Try to create some positive energy in him...... in todays world money is future and without money its very dificult to manage for one.......and for two its impossible why don't u ask him join mylot.... sorry i was just joking so just ask him to find a stable work, don't take money into consideration time will increase experience and thus money...

Love doesn't pay the bills. He need to get a job. He's married now he has to do the best he can to take care of his family. Your friend need to set a fire under him not because the mother in law doesn't like it but because he needs to strive to be the best he can be and he needs to take care of his family.

If your friend's boyfriend really love your friend, he should go find a stable job and prove your friend's mother wrong. I can understand how your friend's mother feel. She wants the best for your friend. She would not want your friend to suffer after marriage with a guy who has no money and no future. It would be very tough on your friend. Love is blind. Now, your friend might not mind this guy not having money and a stable job, but after marriage, when reality kicks in, your friend will realize that it's really not easy to live with a guy who has no money and no stable job. If he loves her, he must work hard, find a stable job and provide well. He does not need to earn a lot of money because I believe your friend is working and can support herself. He needs to at least earn enough to support himself. Your friend would not want to marry a guy who she will have to end up supporting. That would be very sad.

You know I was in that situation. My mother hated the person I was going to marry and thought he wouldnt be able to take care of me. Now we have been together for 7 years and have two children. When we first met he didnt really want to work and didnt care how much he made. Now that we have a family he is working very hard and lets me say home with the kids. Its amazing how someone can change over the years. If she loves him I would say give him a chance. But not every man is like my husband!