Women out there: Are you flattered or irritated by Men's stare?
By Nic
@academic2 (7000)
Uganda
December 2, 2007 3:10am CST
Growing up as a youth, we used to give women, especially young women very strong stares-we would chuckle, whistle and sing praises of young beautiful women walking near us-I know men have a weakness for stares at ladies. Just wanted to know, does this flatter or irritate the ladies?
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4 responses
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
2 Dec 07
Depends who stares and when and where and of course who he is with and who am I with. I don't like guys who stare at you and are sitting next to a girl. It looks like I like you but if you don't want me I can still have her, or even look what I got here if I could catch her you are easy pray.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
2 Dec 07
You make a very intresting point lorelai, but if i were a lady, that would be a bonus to me because, it underpins the fact that perhaps, am more attractive than the one he is hanging out with-it also makes me being stared at a potential threat to the lady at hand and that psychological intimidation can be very triumphant to the lady he is sitting with.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
2 Dec 07
I mean triumphant to the lady he is staring at, (I beg your pardon)
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
2 Dec 07
Thanks for that personal insight mizrak07-problem is, the youth especially just go crazy at young ladies and they cant help being so unfeelng to the ladies they shout at in groups. Infact I recall when we were growing up, each of us would like to stare and shout loudest to catch the attention of the passing young lady-little did we know how offensive we were to the victims of our group stares and noises.
@VKXY62 (1605)
• Australia
2 Dec 07
G'day mate, I am a male but, I would think it would depend on your frame of mind at the time and whether I liked the look of the person giving the attention, and I would have to be interested or on the look at the time.
It might also depend on other factors, such as age.
Scenario 1:
25 year old girl gets a wolf whistle from an overweight 65 year old man, she thinks to herself, (Yuk).
Scenario 2:
50 Year old woman gets a wolf whistle from a 30 year old man. She stops and takes note of his attentions.
I can think that the ladies might have both to report, from various situations.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
2 Dec 07
I agree on the age scenarios you give VKXY62, I wonder what would happen if a 65 year old sturban man whistled at a 56 wll dressed woman, would that flatter the woman perhaps? Thanks alot fo your response!
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
7 Dec 07
Hey Academic
I posted a discussion on it becoming illegal to stare, look, even glance at a woman (in some places stateside). Hopefully you'll check it out.
Just like another poster I'm male so I'll answer this without the full experience.
For one, plenty of women like being looked at or glanced at (some like certain stares too). For women, getting the look from the opposite gender gives a self-satisfaction. The phrase "still got it" or "I'm 'hot'." comes up in their mind. This also leads to some twisted outcomes if a guy tries to further it i.e. PLENTY of rejections. The woman already got your attention, she doesn't need anything else from you, especially if you don't measure up in the 6 second calculation 1st impression glance.
Now in other cases its different and the stares can be sickening or legitimately harassment. For one thing though, some women are subjective on this. If a hot guy did it there are women who would welcome the glance, look or stare (even wrong ones). If an average joe (or worse) did it, the situation will be grim to say the least. I even know of situations where its an average joe or worse and he only glanced/did nothing wrong and this happened.
