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myLot reputation of 88/100. hanreq (494)   ranked 241 out of 10,968 in love2 years ago

,..hhmmm without hurting them?
,...the kind of way that they will understand you without thinking that you have somebody else?


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1. myLot reputation of 99/100. lilaclady (19140)   ranked 1,282 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

I don't think there is way of doing that without hurting them, but I will say whatever you do be honest, it is going to hurt anyway but it is a double hurt when lies are told and you find out later, it is like being made a fool of...I would say just sit down alone with them and talk calmly but tell them you still care but what you are doing is going to you too but then give then the honest reason...


myLot reputation of 88/100. hanreq (494)   ranked 241 out of 10,968 in love  2 years ago

,...uhmmm thanks for the advice,..
'ya,.. i know that there's no way of telling the truth without hurting them,..but when will i tell that if at this moment he only realize that i love him a lot,..
,..what's the proper way of telling it?


myLot reputation of 99/100. lilaclady (19140)   ranked 1,282 out of 10,968 in love  2 years ago

I guess you could say the maybe you need need a break, maybe like a trial seperation and maybe you are feeling what ever you are feeling...

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2. myLot reputation of 96/100. kwenge (1356)   ranked 997 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

There is no proper way of breaking up with someone you once loved without hurting them.
Ok, let me try because I have never been there.
Maybe you sit down the two of you, talk things out, tell him that you don't feel the same way, hear him out maybe he also wanted to tell you the same but he could'nt.
After talking things out and you see you are not agreeing, then ask for a break for sometime to sort your self out.

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3. myLot reputation of 52/100. royanne (146)   ranked 2,637 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

I think there isn't a proper way to say to a person that you don't love them cause even in your nicest voice those words can hurt that person like no one can ever do but you. The thing is you just have to be honest to him/her about your feelings. Cause lies hurt especially if you heard it from other people. If you must do it as early as you can don't make them wait and make them believe that you still love them. Release them from the pain and also release yourself from that pain. The more you hold it in the more you hurt inside and they will also hurt inside not knowing what is wrong. So, better yet so it as early as possible. Make them understand that your love was true and that you did love the, but mow it's just that it's gone and if you continue to pretend it will all become lies. So, evem if it hurts you as much as they do, you really need to do it.^_^ Best of Luck!

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4. myLot reputation of 69/100. subha12 (16010)   ranked 212 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

it is such a sensitive thing to tell, anyway you will hurt your Bf/GF if you tell him/her that you no onger love . Love is such an innocence thing that any little pain will bleed the heart very much. The person may or may not show tremendous emotion at first, but eventually you will know you have hurt him/her immensely.

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5. myLot reputation of 98/100. cartoon4umaniacs (622)   ranked 7,362 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

There is no easy way to do this. They are going to get hurt no matter what you say or how you say it. But the worst one I use was...I just want to be friends maybe good friends but I don't feel like we click anymore... Now that was way bad. I had one used on me too which was ...My mom told me to choose either her or you and I have to choose my mother she given me life... HAHA what a bowl of crap... but anyways no easy way ah....

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6. myLot reputation of 92/100. diillu (4314)   ranked 429 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

I think there's no other easy way of telling your bf/gf that you don't love them. Cause whatever you say will end up hurting them. And you are leaving even when you don't have someone other it will still hurt them cause the feeling of being less important or the feeling of being unwanted is really hurtful when they love you.

 
7. myLot reputation of 93/100. girlgonefishing (1224)   ranked 922 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

I really don't think there is a way. I think that if you truly ever loved them in the first place, it would hurt BOTH of you if you had to tell them that you didn't love them anymore. I could never even imagine telling my husband that I didn't love him anymore.

 
8. myLot reputation of 97/100. roniroxas (5649)   ranked 305 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

not hurting them? well i dont think saying i dont love you anymore can be said without hurting someone. there is no proper way on saying this, one way or another it will really hurt.

 
9. myLot reputation of 95/100. cherriemae (2215)   ranked 106 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

it's hard to say to your bf that you don't love him anymore..maybe, what i need to do is that i'm not worthy for him anymore, that we need space with our relationship, that maybe if we really meant with each other, we really cross the line and see each other in the end..

 
10. myLot reputation of 98/100. bong_domingo (541)   ranked 3,727 out of 10,968 in love   2 years ago

i don't think there's ever an easy way of doing it... "breaking it down gently", i don't think is gentle enough.... if ever you have to tell it to your partner, it always starts with wanting some space for yourself... blah blah...:-)

 
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