My ex wont let my son see my family:(
By mrsjbelle
@mrsjbelle (1640)
United States
December 10, 2007 5:30pm CST
My ex & I had a then 6 yr old son & I moved from WA state to AR Aug 06 to be near my Dad & for a new start. I brought my son with me. My ex promptly came and got my son after aquiring a court order. I had a real hard time & no knowledge of the law responding to court because I didn't have much money and I'm across the country. I filed online by efile and printed off the confirmation. The Divorce papers said our court was in July 07 so I made plans to attend and after my plane ticket was bought I rec'vd FINAL decree in the mail in May and I thought how could this be when we hadn't had court yet??? I called the court and they said I never responded. I faxed them my confirmation & they said they never rec'vd the initial and the confirmation was only valid 30 days. How was I supposed to know? All the lawyers I called wanted 2 to 3,000 just to help me:( I don't have this money not only that they are taking child support from me at the rate of 4 dollars more then I make an hr (wages are higher in WA) & when I was making that amnt I was also paying his expenses such as daycare because we were all together. I miss my son terribly and my ex wont let him see my grandparents or his 10 yr old brother in WA whom he grew up seeing. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks:)
4 responses
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I'm sorry this is happening to you but I do have something in mind.
http://glennsacks.com/blog/?page_id=1436
Consult family law in your particular region. There should be laws against this parental alienation. As for your child support, you could try appealing to the family courts (or whoever is in authority of that particular payment). I'm sorry MrsJBelle. That's all I can think of at this time.
Again, I'm sorry this is happening to you and its a case a little more uncommon to me since I see much more stories of guys getting multi-destroyed in divorce and having their kids taken out of their lives by a vindictive ex. I know both genders go through this, and no matter what, the system is screwed up and this kind of situation needs to come to an end.
I wish you the best with this situation. Its going to be a major endeavor.
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@mrsjbelle (1640)
• United States
11 Dec 07
Thank you guys! Well the reason he got the order is the said I never responded so "defaulted" I faxed them the confirmation "proof" I had and they said it was no good. It's so hard to pay for a lawyer when my check is getting garnished & they want money upfront. Seems if your a criminal you get a free lawyer but if your just fighting for your kid your out of luck plus me being in Arkansas & the Dirvorce in WA makes it harder:( If I were there I would go to court and file papers myself. I fell in love here and of course my son is important but if I went back I'd have no job, no car, nowhere to live to look for these things plus I don't want to leave the man I love. My ultimate solution would be my son to spend his summer here & school year there with me coming for Christmas there. The reason his dad is vindictive is I left him and he is punishing me. He is only hurting my 7 yr old. He got everything he asked for in the Divorce papers he originally had a lawyer his family helped him get who fired him after the retainer because he couldn't pay. Thanks for listening!
@nitaqqsabil (280)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 07
I'm sorry for what happened to you. I think it's a really bad thing when a couple got divorce and one of them just take their children as if the ex have no rights about it. For any reason I do really regret that kind of behaviour, it's not acceptable. I heard a lot of story like this, but until now I still can't find the reason why. But maybe they told me the reason, I still can't understand about it.
Actually it's happened to me. I got divorced a year ago, and 2 month after that I can't see my son again. But in my case, they never really say right in front of my face that I can't see my son again. But my ex husband and his family always complaining how I can't be a good mother, I didn't take care of him enough. And at the same time I have to go to work for 10 hours a day. I hardly have time for myself. Every time I tried to see him, I always get into a huge fight with my ex husband. And it makes me feel guilty, because my son would get sick in the next day.
@paul8675 (750)
• Australia
11 Dec 07
I am divorced 6 years now. My son was 12 at the time. I had a problem for a year or so, but nothing like as severe as your one. In the end, realising that the laws are loaded in one direction, and I was losing out in terms of time and payments, I made peace the best I could with my ex and made a private arrangement. This worked and had the effect of giving my son the power to make his own decisions and got governments and authorities out of the way. I wish you well in your case.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
11 Dec 07
the naacp help with a aid,but i think only if you are not like american american, if u are like italian,hispanic,chineese stuff like that but i am not sure... you should check out their website and see if they can provide you with an attorney...sorry to hear things are not going good for you right now. and this may irratate you as it does some but if you pray on it hard i bet things will turn around for you... works for me all the time:)
