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scarlet54 (13)   ranked 10,166 out of 32,957 in life 5 years ago

Having just spent a lovely day with my grandchildren, part of it fending or circumventing difficult questions about Santa-lol, I'm wondering just when is the best age to tell a child that Santa is - now I'm sorry for any of those adults out there that are of a nervous disposition - not real!!!

My grandson is 3 and is still wrapped up in the magic, my granddaughter is 8 and becoming quite difficult to carry on the game with. It's such a shame when they do realise though because it seems like some of the magic will be missing but I think we've got away with it for another year.

I did hear the other day, one parent saying that they just confirmed that Santa was imaginary but that by not sharing that information with other children younger than themselves, they could be part of the magic! I think that is a lovely idea.

My personal view is when a child asks you straight out and it's obvious that they're not going to stand for any flannel this time, it's time to 'fess up!

What do you all think and what experiences have you had in relation to this tricky moment?

 

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1. myLot reputation of 90/100. kris182_2000 (2721)   ranked 70 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

Even if you don't tell them, they do catch on sooner or later.

I realized at a young age that Santa didn't exist when all the writing on the presents belonged to my mom. I never thought that Santa could have the same handwriting, and knew it was all fake.

Besides there were years I didn't get to see Santa, so there was no way he could know what I wanted if I hadn't told him.


Kids are smart, they figure these things out on their own most of the time.

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2. myLot reputation of 93/100. foxyfire33 (5787)   ranked 1,092 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

When my older 2 got around to asking "Is Santa real?" I simply asked what THEY thought before saying anything myself. With both of them the first year they asked, their response was that they thought he was but some people said he wasn't, so I just told them that what they believed was all that mattered. They next year when they asked again, I again asked what they believed. That time they said that they didn't think he really was a real person...and that's when they learned about the real magic of Christmas. Santa may not be a real man in a red suit but the idea of him lives in all of us who continue the tradition for all the children and that now they were part of that magic.

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3. myLot reputation of 64/100. Kentbush18 (169)   ranked 4,961 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

I think we adults better not disillusion the childrens beliefs on Santa Claus until they find out the truth themselves.

If we tell the children the Santa Claus is not real, then they may go on ask, 'if Santa Claus is not real, why you still tell me the story of Santa Claus?' But if the children find out the secret themselves, it is something different.

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4. myLot reputation of 82/100. kpfingaz (715)   5 years ago

Don't tell them.. just let them find out for themselves. I think if they ask you then yes they are ready to hear the truth. No sense hiding it, that would make you a liar... not a very good thing to do to children when you're supposed to be an exmple.

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5. myLot reputation of 90/100. nothingbetter2do (227)   ranked 10,380 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

I think it's better for the children to know the truth as early as possible. I remember believing in Santa when I was young and then was upset my parents afterwards for lying to me!

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6. myLot reputation of 83/100. beverly1 (815)   5 years ago

i wouldnt say anything it so cute seeing them open up there gifts.

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7. myLot reputation of 96/100. youless (21435)   ranked 149 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

I think it is not so necessary to say it to a child. After the children grow up, they will learn the truth by themselves. Even if we are already adults, but sometimes we still like the fairy tales. It is much more interesting for the holiday.

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8. xiaochencheng (54)   ranked 21,022 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

I think there is no need telling them the truth,when they grow up they will know it by themselves,they are just children,let them enjoy their childhood

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9. myLot reputation of 95/100. eachen2002 (872)   5 years ago

My folks and I have tried to explain to my 11 year old daughter that he doesn't exist and i think she really knows and her grandmother has tried in vain to tell her he really doesn't exist but I guess in her mind her imagination is still quite vivid as long as she still has that I guess it can't be all bad.

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10. myLot reputation of 70/100. hopejordan (2442)   ranked 8,188 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

hi there scarlet54
i told my kids about it 3 years ago we are christains my 11 and 78 year old already know its about jesus its not about santa he is not real but jesus yes he is real thanks for this discussion merry christmas to you and happy new year for 2008

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