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It's so unfair. If he didn't fight, he would have been beaten, and cause he fought, he would be punished. Are you completely sure it wasn't his fault? You might wanna talk to that other boy parents, and try to settle the things. Or, you could go to police and accuse that the boy attacked your son.

Unfortunately, your son didn't do what the kids are told to do - you don't fight back. He is probably going to get suspended from school (or whatever their policy is). I wouldn't worry about your son being hauled off by the police. I would worry about any civil suit that may come up.

Well, it is so hard to advise you. I don't know what the laws are in the Netherlands. Since your son is a juvenile there may be special laws for juveniles. Here in Canada the schools are really clamping down on fighting and bullying. They even have peer sessions to teach the kids how to walk away from confrontations. It is most likely that here the two boys would be suspended from school for a time. The parents of the other boy if he was injured could ask the police to lay criminal charges. I sure hope they don't if their son was not injured and this turns out ok. for you and your son. Somehow there is a lesson to be learned from this.

I had this happen a lot lol . They will tell you to come to the police station and they need to talk with you. It is not all that bad. If he ahs people willing to back him up then he should be fine if not then he will get what they give to him.

Well, I know this sucks but it sounds like you are going to have to hire an attorney or go straight to the school board with written affidafits from the witnesses in your favor.

It sucks cause if your son wouldn't of stood up for himself, he would of probably been the center of torment the rest of the school year. But, he defends himself and he gets in trouble.

If your son has ANY marks, even scratches, get pics NOW! Keep a journal of who you've talked to, their position, date and time and a phone number. Hopefully it won't come to anything, but just to be on the safe side, watch your p's and q's!

I hope everything works out for you, keep us posted!

~Stephanie

If the fight did not happen on school property their is nothing the school can do. If the school tries to suspened your son from school you need to go strait to the school board and ask them why the school is envolved in matters that did not happen at school or on their property. This is a clear case of assault tored your son and you should file charge again the boy that started the fight. It is a case of self-defence. You need to get the other boys that seen the fight write down what they seen and sign and date it with their parents there. You need to write down everthing that is said to by who, when, and what time. Plus, if this goes any further you will have all your facts down.

the best thing would be u keep away from that boy

A lot of times when they arrest kids, they just let the parents bring the kid to the police station and then take him home. I doubt they would actually remove your son from your house!
Have you tried calling the parents and calmly discussing it? They might get defensive or yell, in which case maybe you could find a mediator through the school or the local youth services department.
Good luck! What a world we're in, huh, when a middle-school kid who gets into a fight can end up with a police record?

If they come, just tell YOUR story of it(The truth)

All you can do is wait till you talk to the police and see what awaits you and your son. If you believe your son then stick by him to the end. I wish you much luck, let us know how it turns out. For fighting i don't think they could do much besides suspending them from school which isn't the end of the world. My son too fought when provoked but accepted the consequences even though it didn't seem fair at the time. They can't just take it from the others or they will continually be harrassed.
Donna