Women Who Beat Their Men
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
January 23, 2008 4:28pm CST
I am so angry that I hardly know what to do. Something told me last night to go and speak to the Assistant Adminstator that works here. But, he had already left for the day. He use to be an alcoholic and is still going to AA meetings.
So I knew he would understand. I told him all the things that I had been observing and pleaded with him to get help for my friend who is an alcoholic. After I talked to him, I went to see my doctor. I got some pretty interesting news from him, so I went to tell my friend Leslie about it. As usual, she was sitting up under her boyfriend.
But, this time I believe that she had been drinking too, because she was being much meaner than usual. He was begging for some of her cigarette and reaching for it and she was yelling at him and hitting him. She was slapping him all in his head and just acting a fool.
When she first hit him, my eyes got big and I looked into her eyes. I had seem her do this at least once before. He wanted to go buy another beer and she was physically trying to stop him. The last time she did it, I was saying things to her and yelling at her to get her to stop.
This time, I just looked at her and then changed the subject. I believe that she is testing my loyalty. She knows good and well that I can not stand when she does things like that. She ought to know that I am going to be on the side of whoever is right.
First of all, there is no reason for him to be begging. He gets money for serving in the military and it is more than enough to take him through the entire month. But, she takes his money from him and dishes it out the way she wants to and keeps him begging for that all the time.
She spends most of it on eating out and whatever else she chooses to. So now, he hast to beg and pan handle until the first of the month. After she finished hitting him, he looked at me and said, you see how she treats me, she is so selfish.
She got up to go to the restroom and told him that he needed to learn how to act. I blurted out to her, that she needed to learn how to treat her man. She keeps him under control by blackmail. She threatens to tell the people that work here what he is doing.
I am now keeping them up to date because I believe that he deserves a better life. He is a very nice guy and I want them to send him for treatment and then get him as far away from here as possible. When she got up to go to the restroom, I left and came right back door to talk to the Assistant Administractor again.
I told him everything that I saw and he promised me that they are going to try to help him. I am so fed up with this insanity that I do not want to see anyone of them right now. I love them both, but I have my own problems to deal with. I can't keep fretting over those two.
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6 responses
@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Wow, abuse of partners can go both ways. We hear all the time of the women being abused, here its a man being abused. He shouldn't be putting up with it. I think you did the right thing, who needs all that drama in their lives. I think we all have enough of our own drama then to get involved with someone elses drama. Good for you.
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@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
24 Jan 08
I would tell him like I would any one being abused, man or women. Get the hell away from them. No one deserves to be abused. It is good that he doesn't hit a women, but it sounds like she is one that needs a slap. I don't believe in anyone hitting another person. I do belive in defending yourself.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
24 Jan 08
I do not know if you have witnessed it, but there is just something really sad about seeing a man be abused. He calls her his queen and she has always treated him like he was less than dirt.
I use to have the attitude, well if he is putting up with it, that is on him. But, now I realize that it is far deeper than that and he needs help. He is not dealing with an ordinary lady. She is like a monster sometimes.
It is equally horrible when it happens to anyone, but there is just something about seeing it happen to a man that mans it that much more sad. Men should be strong and able to protect themselves. But, I can tell he was raised not to hit women at all.
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Rozie thats good you reported it to the administrator.Nobody deserves to be abused.I hope the guy gets out of the relationship before its to late.He deserves better.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Hey Nita what's up How are things going?
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
24 Jan 08
AMEN 2 dat and hey there Marcia everything is good.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I wouldn't worrry about it don't let it stress you out, Is it the same Man you were talking about the other day?
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Sorry Rozie but I laughed at your heading when I first read it via my email. I don't know of any woman that beat up on their man, honestly and seriously, no-one thats why I laughed when I read your title, sorry to be rude.
These two are a peice of work and I'm sure you're getting tired of it all, I know I would. Telling the Asst Administrator was a good thing to do so lets hope he/they do something about their behavior. I don't know how you stay sane in that place!!!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
24 Jan 08
I do not think that it was rude of you to laugh at all. It is very rare for this to happen. And I realize that there are those who have never seen or heard of it. But, as the Administrator said, she can go to jail for that.
Believe me, this place gets on my nerves more than you could ever imagine. But I believe that God has me here for a reason and he is giving me the strength to endure. He knows that because of my past, there are some things that I will not tolerate. Seeing someone being mistreated deliberately is one of those things that I can not over look.
There are over 100 people who live here and we all have our issues. I am so glad that they gave me a pretty good roommate, so I can still retreat to my room and get away from the madness. It was very hard getting use to living here and in almost three years, I am still jumping and running every time I think that something is amiss.
The thing with these two is that they are toxic for each other and they are feeding off of each others illnesses. Actually, she is pretty much toxic for anyone and she refuses to do anything to try to better herself. I love her dearly, but I have never liked her as a person. She is just far too mean.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
24 Jan 08
How sad of a life they both must have one who dirks to much and one who is an abuser. I think they both need lots of help. I am glad you opened up your mouth. I know they will both be mad at you but who cares it is for the best for both of them.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Rozie hon, you're doing the same thing that my husband and I did. You need to cut ties with these people because they're pulling you down just like our friend who lived with us did to us. They're just not worth it. You've done all you can to help the guy now it's up to him to take the reins and run with it. Bless you for doing all that you could!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
24 Jan 08
It is very hard to cut ties with people that you live with and see all the time. I have tried to cut ties with them many times. I have been praying about it for at least a year.
So now I am at the point where I am just trying to do what I can to help. I really believe that God has given me a heart of compassion for them. I have been praying and will continue to pray for God's guidance in this matter. It is too hard to try to go it alone.
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