This is for women who got infertile because of VD, this is not a condemning
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40192)
Canada
January 31, 2008 10:31pm CST
inquiry, but one that bothered me, but about the mental results of this method of becoming infertile? Now when I get chicken pox and get spots on my face, my nose did not fall off, when you get a rash on your arm, your skin does not peel off, yet if someone sleeps with the wrong person and that wrong person gives you an std and if you do not know it, it wrecks havoc and you find you are unable to have children. Does this mean that it might affect your mind, maybe turn you into a woman who is dangerous to children?
So if there are some who remember the before and after, did you change and become less loving of children or were you the same? I am not addressing those who never liked children any but those who had a great love of children and then got an std that left them infertile.
Also anyone who works in the medical field may answer this as well. I am trying to disprove that become infertility because of std does not make you a child hater or make you indifferent to children's cries for help.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
1 Feb 08
I do not think so, but sometimes I feel a little unsure, because why is it as a result of getting Vd, and not being able to treat it, you wind up being infertile? It has to be for a reason, doesn't it?
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
2 Feb 08
Well she had Churchill. Another thing, back where I lived, you had to take a test to see if you had or had had any vd, before you were married and it was not until I met my husband in 1972 that you did not need to, I guess because so many men left the girls there at the clinic after learning they had had vd. If they did not, the test would have continued in Canada to this day.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
4 Feb 08
The only STD that I know of that affects the mind is syphilis. If it goes untreated for a long time, it can affect the brain. Medicine has come a long way and things can be either cured and for the incurable there are methods that can at least reduce side effects of a disease. I have never heard of someone hurting a child or making a child fearful because they had contracted an STD and it made them infertile. I don't think you can lump an entire group of infertile women who suffer from an STD into that category. I know that is not what you are doing! I think it all has to do with each individual person's mind to begin with.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
4 Feb 08
That is nice to know. I wonder if it would make someone forgetful, that is they would love children but would unable to see the dangers, like they would be less likely to keep a child from doing something he should not.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
Your welcome. It was that you did not generalize all stds, but just said it was syphilis.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
4 Feb 08
I have not known one. Certainly I did not become a child hater, but it is the infertility part that bothers me as when I had the measles and had spots all over, myh skin did not start peeling and coming off -- I then started to wonder perhaps in ancient times all stds killed you and gradually they became chronic.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
I don't think that being incapable of having a child could make a woman or person a child hater. I think its the opposite. The longing to have children would make one want a child enough to adopt one. A person's capacity to love another human being is immeasurable.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
11 Feb 08
You said that you raised two adopted twin boys. If you ask me, this is more of an honor than raising your own. Most people love their own children, but it takes a very special person to take in the children of a stranger and love those children as if they were their own.
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
10 Feb 08
I don't think infertility makes people child haters, I think the opoposite, they become more in tune with kids needs because they want it so much.
I have been lucky enough to have 4 children, and another on the way, and I wouldn't give them up for anything.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
I was forced to give my daugher up for adoption when I was 17. Was practically told I would be put out on the street, and there was no help avaiable. Or rather it did not come available to at least six months later. The laws have changed now, but that forced many girls to give up their babies as if they kept their babies and their families kicked them out, they would starve.
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
12 Feb 08
That was your choice and I think you made it out of love. I hope she knows just how lucky she is to have 2 mothers love her, even if she doesn't know she is adopted.
