Does music define you as the type of person you are.....  

My ipod is pretty eclectic, like yours. Then at the same time I can be found cooking to Kiss in the Kitchen and cleaning to country in the bathroom. I think it makes me more diversified. :)

I too just listen to what's fancy or what I'm up to listening at the moment, not necessarily self defining. I listen to local, internation music, different types as well since its sometimes better at different times. I don't intentionally place a record, I am somewhat that radio listener who just turns on the player and let it play whatever record it could run.

I too haven't turned into the content of some of the music I hear. Just some but, not all ^_^

Just out of curiosity, did you happen to ask what she considered to be 'sweet, caring, considerate' music? I can't really see anything fitting that description, except for maybe hymns and nursery rhymes.

Defining yourself based on music is a little ridiculous. I know there are songs that I feel that I can relate to, but there isn't any particular artist or album that I feel the need to point to and say 'Yep, that's me. Right there. All me.' I don't think music artists even define themselves by what sort of music they produce.

Then again, I could be saying this because I'm like you. Putting my eclectic ipod on shuffle is a little like interviewing someone with multiple personality disorder. (Which, I assure you, would not be me. :P)

It doesn't defines who you are.Musical taste is just a part of who you are.I like all types of music, I always been interested in all types of music. I play classical. I sing country, and I usually listen to rock and roll.Music should match your mood and you are freed to like any type of music. I feel sorry for your friend. If she thinks that only angry, uneducated people listen to hard rock, then she might have a problem when her teenager starts liking rap.