Friends with Exes??
@luvingmygirls (493)
United States
February 6, 2008 12:35pm CST
Do you still talk to your exes?? Do you consider them as a friend??? If you are in a relationship now what does your new spouse think/say?
Just wondering because I have daughter with my ex so we will always still conversate about her but we (I think) are also still friends so we occasionally talk about other things. My husband has no problem with it. We are very open and honest with eachother and him and my ex get along just fine. However alot of people complain to my husband that he shouldn't allow it or tell me that I shouldn't do it. What is your take on this??
4 responses
@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
8 Feb 08
You know there is enough hate in the world already between parents and the only people who get hurt by that are the children. Your ex couldn't be all that bad if you made a child with him...relationship just didn't work out thats fine but your daughter shouldn't suffer for it. You sound like a very responsible parent for being friends with your daughters father and I think your Now husband should be congratulated for being a Mature and responsible husband and step-father. If people were like you and your family maybe there would be a little more happiness in Families. I wouldn't worry what other people are saying...if it ain't broke don't fix it.
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Thank you all for your responses!! It does help to know that what other people think shouldn't matter as long as we are all doing whats best for our CHILDREN.
@bojangles88 (649)
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4 May 08
My boyfriend has a son with his ex too but their relationship isn't as rosy as yours sounds. But I must say at times that is comforting for me. Because if they got on really well, the fact that they've got a son as a bond, could be more than any bond the 2 of us have. But on the otherhand the whole situation makes me feel quite sorry for them, because its hard to get on for their son's sake. And its not fair on him when they argue, and often his mum uses him as a weapon almost against my boyfriend...
@kymommy72 (588)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I think thats so wonderful that you are such good friends with your ex, especially since you have a child together. So many ppl take thier own feelings of resetment toward thier ex's before whats best for thier child. It's even more wonderful that your husband has no problem with it so it doesnt cause any problems between the two of you. Unfortunately, I don't talk to my ex's. My ex husband I don't want to talk to so thats a good thing LOL. We didnt have any children together, which was a blessing in the end. My ex boyfriend and I split up badly and even though we always said we would stay friends if we broke up, it didn't work out that way. I wish we could have because we were so close when we were together, but it just wasn't possible. Too many hurt feelings on both sides. I don't think my current husband would have been too happy about it anyway.
@david2005 (798)
• Canada
7 Feb 08
I don't stay friends with exes but there is an exception though if there is a child involved in the matter.
