Is there such a thing as hugging your child too much?

United States
February 7, 2008 9:57pm CST
My husband always jokes that I am hugging my kids too much. Do you think there is such a thing? My mom was always hugging me and telling me she loved me. I know I was the joy of her life and I want to pass that on to my children. I know some ppl are not good at expressing themselves in that way, so what do you think?
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@ssh123 (31071)
• India
8 Feb 08
Yes. Sometimes it look too much. I can understand a hug in the morning and hug in the night to reassure the kids that you love them. There are kids I have come across among our large families, that they do not like frequent hugging. Sometimes, it becomes only a formality for some children to allow them to be hugged. On the other hand, I have my own son who wants to be hugged not only by his mother but also by me. This is purely psychological and these children (including my son) suffer from some sort of syndrome that they are left alone and they needed to be assured that that atleast the mother should always be near them, hug them. If hugging is done as a part of greeting and as a part of assuring your love and affection once in a while, it is good. But anything overdone, the onlookers get different ideas. I have a newphew who dislikes hugging. Children in the age range of 10+ if they grow in company of other children, avoid the hugging by adults (parents) thinking that it is not a good social practice and feel shy.
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• United States
11 Nov 08
I don't think you can hug them too much. One day they won't want to be hugged. They'll jump out of the car and dash into school before you can roll down the window to yell "Hey kid, Mom loves you. Have a great day!" So no, as long as the hugs are appropriate I think you're completely fine. :)
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
10 Feb 08
i dont think there is such thing as hugging too much a child because i'm also a mother and i really love to hug my daughter so tight, and smell her mouth, her neck, her armpit..i want to enjoy my life with my lovely child because as for now she's on of the persons whom i loved and i wanted her to feel that..that she's being loved and being cared of..
• United States
26 Oct 08
I don't think there is anything wrong in hugging your children too much, because once they get older, like in there teens they probably will be "too cool" to be all huggy with mommy..LOL.. I hug my son every day, many times a day and I tell him I love him a lot. He's only 6 but by hugging him all the time since he was born he is a very sweet and affectionate child and is always open arms to Grandma & Grandpa and his Aunts and Uncles.They are so taken' by his affection and praise how much of a smart and sweet child he is.When I was a child my mom hardly if ever hugged me, she was kinda cold, but I don't blame her or think less of her for being like that because she was raised in a very strict & stern environment as a child and has a lot of responsibilities because she was raised on a farm. But I try to be a different type of mother to my son and give him as many hugs as possible and he hugs me back as well:)
@cncoke (439)
• China
12 Oct 08
I am the same as you.I often hug my children times a day and meanwhile say,I love you.Bexause my children are the joy of my life.When I do this,my husband often joles and asks,could you hug me that more?I then answer,if you were our child,I'll do the same.