| relationship rut  | | | |  Hv been with partner 4 11yrs, we have been thru lots of rollercoaster rides and always manage to 'weather the storm' however for some time now (about 8mths) i have felt that we have come to the end of the road. I am no longer in love with him, his habits annoy me and i do not feel attracted to him in the slightest. However, he worships the ground i walk on and would happily move us and our children on to a dessert island if he could. He is a good father, he works hard but he has no motivation to do anything and i take sole responsibility for everything. The house is mine and i have asked him to leave on several occasions. He says he will get a flat but it never materialises as he has no get up and go! I hate seeing him hurt, he doesn't speak to me at times and i just cannot see the point in carrying on when neither of us is getting any pleasure from our relationship. The fact that he will not leave is really starting to get to me and i have thought of just up and leaving myself on many occasions. I dont want to uproot the children and told him he can as much access to them as possible but not me. I have just taken on a new job and i am planning to work full time so that i dont hv 2 spend time with him. This will be very hard as i also go to college, work as a volunteer, run the house (dont cook) and our eldest child is just 9. What can i do?
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| 1.  kangallo (1587)
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5 years ago
| | You can wait for some more time. You have said that your eldest child is only 9 years old. Therefore, it will be difficult for you to leave your husband at present.
In marriage, children are the most important and we should take every care not to cause any inconvenience to them.
You can try your level best to maintain good relationships with your husband. Even if you cannot, wait for a few more years.
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| 2.  ohwellie (137)
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5 years ago
| | You need to think really hard and then if you still think you can't work things through then, you have to tell him. It's not fair on any of you to stay in this relationship, especially on the children. | | | | | | | | | | What Really Attracts Men 9 Dangerous Mistakes Women Make That Men Find Totally Unattractive CatchHimAndKeepHim.com | add comment | | | |
| 3.  cokyjazz (205)
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5 years ago
| |  Children are important but if you are miserable,they will sense it and it won't do them any good to be in that situation anyway.I think he hasn't gotten himself a flat because he is in denial and thinks if he stays,that's it..relationship goes on.Maybe find him a stack of flats to apply for and it may sink in that you are serious.I don't think it's fair that you should have to move from your own home and disturb the kids.Your partner needs to have his eyes opened that it's over.
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| | 4. iankay (31)
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4 years ago
| | the key to relationships pollylopps1 is romance no matter how long you have been with your partner all they ever want or need is romance... it's the key to any relationship... making the other one feel like the most special one in the world. If you need advice or tips and tricks i have come across a really helpful site that i have personally used to enhance my relationship it is www.romance4u.info
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| 5.  cowboyofhell (2120)
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3 years ago
| |  Things would have been easier had you realized even before that it will lead this way. I don't know why your partner is sick and lazy but right now I'm sick of women who complain alot about how their relationships suck.
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