Middle child dilemma

@heart143 (1202)
Philippines
February 28, 2008 1:06am CST
I'm a middle child. Many people say that the middle child is always the one being left out and unattended. The first borns are well loved (being the first one of course) and the youngest are usually babied and pampered leaving the middle child competing for their parents' attention. I have some friends who have the same problem and at one point in time I too have experienced the situation. Are you a middle child? Do you or have you experienced the same?
2 responses
@junko704 (134)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
hi there, well true, i am a middle child and i do feel the same way as you are but i also know of some middle childs who are treated better compared to that of what you say. i guess its the stereotyping that gets into our heads and makes us think this ways.. sometimes i dont think of it that way and im happy. you should too
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
when i was younger, I'm affected by it...but not anymore. I'm done with those days and I dont mind it anymore. Now, I'm the star of the family!
@junko704 (134)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
me too! i'm a star of the show too..
• United States
28 Feb 08
I'm the middle child AND the only girl. There were definately times I felt like I was being treated differently from my brothers, but I didn't know if it was because I was an only child, the only girl, or both. For example, my older brother had a much later curfew than I did. When I complained of it not being as late as his, I was told it was because I was a girl. But, my little brother had the same curfew a couple years later. So maybe my parents just learned from my big brother's behavior? I dont' know. I don't really think parents knowingly treat their kids differently though. And when they do, they probably think it's in their child's best interest. Just try not to get too caught up in feeling like you're left out, and focus on just being happy!
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
Yup. And I'm done with it. Now, being a grown up and with a child of my own, it's not an issue anymore. Maybe you are right that parents may not be aware of such treatment to some of their children sometimes, but admit it or not...they really have favorites.