long distance relationships

i tried to stop calling him and then he blows my phone up asking me whats wrong and then when i explained to him yesterday the way i felt about him accusing me and things he has apologized. he says that everytime he gets something good it gets taken from him so he's going about things in a different way thats when i asked well do you think accusing will keep me around its a real turn off and since then he hasnt tried anything like he usually does when we talk which is like 4 or 5 times a day and he does call me i do not call him because i'm testing him now

well does supposed love have to make him act so crazy he can show it in different ways dont u think so?Oh i have not promised anything and neither has he but he does want to come visit me we've talked about it but we have not made any definate plans because i want to see how his attitude towards things turns out to be.and yes i do agree about th virtual figure thing. looks aren't everything even though he is very handsome to me. yes i am goin to let it ride because i never know once we do meet things may go well thanks for tips

i've tried to stop communicating with him but de does email me and he does call me asking me whats wrong and things like that and ever since i let him know that if you really want to get to know me better then u need to stop the accusing and the arguments because i have been down that road before and i'm not about to deal with it from someone else and ever since then he has stopped i am gld of that. things seem to be going better now what do u think it could be to make him stop? do u think its because i let him know that he's not gonna treat me that way and now he knows that i am stronger minded than he thought let me know what u think thanks

now at this point it is up to you to decide if this has to go on. i think you should start going out with others as well so you can pick the best person for you. i am glad also to see that things are going well for you and him. i agree that you have to tell him what you dont like and what you have in mind. some guys wants their ladies to bow on to them. i believe in give and take when it comes to a relationship. love is something that you give it away and it comes right back to you.

i so totally agree with you about men wanting there women to bow down to them i cant stand that i am not a slave, but today we had a long discussion about things and he told me (in his words) i was the realest femae he's ever talked to i dont hold my tongue i'm honest with him and he likes that about me and i thanked him and let him know that since he has stopped accusing me of talking to other guys and things we have really had more positive conversations and we've been able to get to know each other very well. so i think this may work now that were seeming to get over that little hump that most of the time happens in beginner relationships. but i do have other guys i do talk to jus to see how different things are between them and he;s the only one that i have found that has been totally honest with me about everything, and we talked today again about having a relationship and not wanting to rush things and we are content with the stage we are at now and we both agreed that if we are meant to be we will be everything will fall into place if its meant for us to be what do you thinkg

yes if it was meant to be then no matter what happens or how far you are from him everything will fall into the right places. just like puzzles they interlock. good for you that it is running good and smooth. relationships has its ups and downs and im sure yours will be no exception but you both sound like you can work it out very good.

at first i was so against it but i thought long and hard about trying this out it feels right but i am gonna be cautious about it. and today we talked and its established that we are more than friends but not on that serious relationship level he's actually traveling to see me this week hopefully if he can get the days off i'll add you as a friend and let you know how it turns out if you dont mind me doing that

Sure that is fine you can add me as a friend. I'll be awaiting your request. Fingers crossed for you.

Okay i'm gettin back to u on this becausei told u i would and of course things are going alot better between me and him. he's not gettin jealous anymore even though i know things are in the back of his mind but i'm not gonna let him know i know that. the only thing that is stopping him at this point from gettn up here to visit as often as he would like is his job, he's a prep cook at a casino and they dont have many of them so its hard for him to take off without them threatening to fire him. so he's upset at that because he likes to come visit me. so were being patient and waiting out this period of time that we havent seen each other, and things are going great with us though. i mean were practicing patience and one day my phone was acting stupid so he did everything in his mite to contact me. he even got online and sent me notes jus to make sure i was okay and we dont talk online anymore at all, he told me his day didnt feel right because he didnt hear my voice, and mine didnt feel right either but hey i guess were making some progress in things now that the little arguements and things have stopped.i hope all is well for you.

i would like to hear both of your opinions on long distance relationships and online relationships. but since we have each others telephone numbers we dont communicate online anymore we talk on the phone alot like at least 4 to 5 hours a day since we both work evenings our phone bills are sky high but were helping each other out in paying them since we do want to talk to each other that bad, what is your opinion on that? also what if its hard to build trust for someone if you've been hurt in the past? what would u suggest i do

yes i think you should try out both. But one thing i must say,don't spend so much on telephone bills. I know how you are feeling being away, but always keep the expenses in mind.

well i have already paid for that for or five hours we've spend on the phone my cell phone has been cut off twice already so he's helpin me pay for it and now i'm deciding to change my plan to umlimited everything so that way i wont have that problem and he's gonna help pay for that too he's already sent me money for it since he doenst have a cell phone right now so i call his house so i mean it would only be fair.

thanks for the advice on that today we did have a converstaion about his jealousy problem and this time he didnt fuss he let me speak my mind and he responded in a calm manner which is surprising me and i asked him why so calm now and he said well because u are different from most girls i've dealt with u speak ur mind and u dont have a problem doing that with me. and he;s saying the only reason that he's acting this way is to test me and see what my responses would be to things and i mean we jus had a conversation about so much because i was gettin really tired of things i was about to give up and he knows when i'm fed up already, so i would say we are growin in certain ways but we have established that we are content wth where our relationship is were not gonna move to fast so we'll see how things go

maybe it's the best way to let it go unaffectedly.who knows what would happen next.i'm glad to see you have made an agreement.god bless

jus lettin u know things have made a turn towards positive ness between me and him. were doin fine in our agreement. we've cut back phone time some jus until we can get my bill down and i'm changing my phone plan too because i was running out of mintues to fast. so things are finally lookin up for us.

thanks things have started going better since then but i have certain instincts that he's tryin to be a player and talk to multiple girls at one time and i'm not for that i'be been down that road in my life already and i'm on another road. so if my instincts are right i will stop talkin to him but i dont need to go as far as chaning my numbers and things because once i say its over and whatever else i say he's gonna erase my numbers and things of that nature so i get off pretty easy on that matter

oh i've set him strait on that he doens over react anymore but i do have feelings that he's tryin to be a player so i'm watchin out for that but thanks for being concerned