Helping with homework

Why not really talk about this? There has to be an underlying cause to his witholding the homework and issues from you. I'd say its embarassment, shame, guilt, weakness, something along those lines. You have to convince him, none of this has to be. He has nothing to be ashamed of. Nothing to be guilty of. Nothing to be embarassed about. This doesn't make him inadequate nor is it wasting his/your time either! People learn in different ways. You could try to find if he has any favorite subjects, and start dialogue/helping from that point. Notetaking can help too (in class it helps, but also doing it at home is a study method and a way to crystalize the information): this can be done by hand and notebook or through Word. You should both work together at homework. It'll help you bond and your son could open up more to you. Also, you have the option of asking your daughter to assist too. If he's not as open to you, he might be a bit more open to your daughter. I still think you could all help him out with his studies. You could make it a family night, that is one possibility. There should also be flash cards, programs and websites to help out with homework and school work. It might be imposing further, but maybe asking the teacher for more information, notes/presentations, or taking an extra day or extra time to help teach your son could work (might work better if you are present too). Even mylot has some members talking about it (even the subjects themselves).

Why don't you give him a rewards system? If he does his homework all week and stays out of trouble with his courses and behaves at home he gets to choose an activity to do, or you buy him something small.