Being Frank is consider as rudeness.
By ciades
@ciades (1623)
Philippines
March 19, 2008 2:37am CST
I am a frank person. If i dont like what person did to me. I really tell him facely. And sometimes i don't care if i hurt his feelings. I just being honest and being true. I don't want to be pretend and nothing to be pretend of. I remember when my friend asked me if how's her belly. So i just simply said that its almost flow from her pants. Well, she just laugh coz she know me but im serious what im saying and im not joking. But, sometimes i flashback those words i told to the certain person. It's sound so rude. I felt guilty and i make a way or a thing that im just concerned or im just want him to know the reality or what i feel. But it doesn't mean i hate him.
But right now i learned to think first before i say the words. Think first before to release certain words coz people have different level of emotional capacity. Learn how to adjust different people you meet in your daily life.
3 responses
@goldwin65 (935)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 08
To me it is alright to be direct and open but you must see who that person is. If he or she is your good friend, that person will appreciate you for being frank. In fact, it is a positive attitude to be frank to our close friend.
But to strangers or someone who is superior then you, you have to see the situation and the expression you use. Take for example, if you say "You are fat" to a stranger she wouldn't like it 
however if you say "You are a bit plump or chubby" she may take it. 
So next time you need to see who you are talking to.
however if you say "You are a bit plump or chubby" she may take it.
So next time you need to see who you are talking to. 
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
19 Mar 08
Hello dear ciades. Yeah, I agree with you that to be frank could be sometimes considered as rudeness, especially to those who have different levels of emotional capacity. You are right to say that we need to think about it before we speak out what we say so as not to hurt the other party. Thanks for sharing.
@metal_monkee (930)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
hi ciades, yes i agree...think before you speak...you dont know that the other person is thinking. possible you have good intentions but they see it differently...but for me being a frank person is good! its the opposite of being fake ryt?! hehe ^_^
