torn between the drug and him  | |  decision time....
so my boyfriend just recently got nailed for drugs by the law....his 2nd petty offense, but not taken lightly in the small town i live in OVERPOPULATED with cops who are out to get anybody associated with illegal drugs. my problem: i have been doing the drug for over 10 years now. i will totally admit to addiction and would love to quit knowing the harms it has on my body.....but i still enjoy it and therefore don't WANT to quit. so anyhow.....my boyfriend is making a decision to quit all together to save him from further trouble down the road....which is a very wise decision. he has to pretty much.....unless he wants to spend life in jail....probation...yada yada. well, he is mad at me because i am having a hard time with the fact that he expects me just to drop everything cold turkey just because he HAS to. he is quite a bit younger than i am....and I had nothing to do with him getting into this lifestyle....but when he chose to do so, I warned him that he should really re-think things and if he chose to go ahead with it, that he really really really needed to be careful and that he probably didn't know what kinda crap he would be getting into if he did get caught. well, here we are......he did get in trouble....and i warned him. so seeing that i really don't wanna give up my lifestyle that i have led for the past 10+ years i am having an issue with him just expecting me to give it.....just like that......ahhhh....
i wanna support him. but i also am not the one who screwed up and got into trouble....he has done this drug for a mere 3 years maybe....me at least 10. grrr......i really don't know how to feel about this i guess.....
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| | | | | | | | 1.  robsbrooklyngirl (3132) | 5 months ago |  It's sad to say that if you don't give up this so called lifestyle as you call it then you will not be around for much longer. You are messing up your health & the fact that you don't even care is very sad. The wisest thing for your boyfriend to do would be to leave you since you don't want to give up using drugs. I knew a guy who was using drugs & when he decided to stop using them he had to quit hanging out with all his friends that still did drugs. You need to be strong when you are trying to quit & if he stays with you while you are still using then more then likely he will start using again too. What I can't understand is, why if you love your boyfriend would you NOT want to give up the drugs? Will you really choose drugs over the man you love? Drugs will eventually kill you, so you should want to quit not only for your boyfriend but yourself as well.
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| weninger (29) | 5 months ago | i agree with you. but anybody who is addicted or has been addicted to drugs knows that the drug most times takes over everything about that person....including the ability to care about one's health etc. i see both sides of this whole thing in a way....but i cant help but see it like this too: if i were in his shoes...and i were the one making the decision for myself....i would be willing to bet that very few if any (including him) would be willing to completely cold turkey drop everything on the spot for me. i wouldn't ask or expect him or anybody to do that for me if i chose to change my lifestyle for the moment. i also know that the main reason for him being upset is mainly because he can't do the drug, while i still can if i choose to. (he can but given the situation chooses otherwise or whatever). if he would not have gotten in trouble i know for a fact that he would still be doing his thing as usual.....and would not voluntarily choose one day just to stop. the day he is out of this trouble, i promise you, he will be right back where he was before......he's upset because he got caught....and now has to pay the consequences of that. | |
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