Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar..... Family

Good Evening Feona:))

My concern is also the fairness of being responsible for younger siblings. When I was a child I had to tend to my younger brothers out of necessity. My mother worked among other things. I lost so much of my childhood and youth. Not that the responsibility was not good for me. I do think that young people need more. But to always be shackled with it is unfair and life changing.

I had not considered what might happen should both parents be taken away.

Its true enough what would happen to the family if Dad were to suddenly become disabled, unemployed, or economically devastated. Big responsibility.

Or if Michelle's uterus does finally give out during childbirth and she dies leaving all those children and a newborn baby. Jim Bob could always find a new line of work or Discovery can pay them for more shows but a mom can't be replaced....

LOL let's just be thankful they aren't polygamists, just imagine what it would be like if Jim Bob had 3 or 4 wives!

LMAO Foxy:)))) i can not imagine... takes the BIG LOVE to a whole different level:))))

Foxy you are too funny!! LOL

Ouch:)))) of course all this coming from a woman who loves Cats:))) Hi Elic good to see you friend.

Yeah, I have cats. 2 of my cats are my "sons" because they would've definately died if I hadn't taken them in and 1 "grandson" for the same reason.

Beats giving birth to them.

Elic, I know that your sons and grandson is mighty obliged to you and for indebted in gratitude:)))

and forever indebted in gratitude:)))

that should read

Thank you Angel... I love my kitties

Oh sissy:(( that hormone rollor coaster is so much fun isn't babe?

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lol. i'm doing pretty good.. but sad now that i've had my tubes tied and i'm looking at this wee one.. i wont hold another baby this little with my blood running through it till i see some grandchildren. .*sniffle* we cant afford more and i dont REALLY regret it.. but i do.. you know what i mean?

Sissy, I totally understand...my youngest is now going on 17 months old and it's like every little milestone just chokes me up because it's the last 'first' I will ever see for a child of my own.

Oh foxy. its sad.. why did i do it!

rotflmao OH yeah Yes I am sure she finds great comfort in his staff:)))

It is quite obvious that they love to practice the laying on of hands and I imagine they have a lot of devotional time together. Devotion in motion.

You are quite a character hornymancm, I am glad I stumbled upon you:))

However there is something hauntingly familiar about you:))))

Hauntingly? It sounds like the Holy Ghost may be up to something.

Wow... I have in mind the Osmond family... Do you know who they are? there are 75? grand children and like 27 great grand children.... You would have to have a palace and a hotel to bring in the entire family at holidays.

Agreed....the sad thing is that kind of resentment can be life long.

With much respect I have to beg a difference with you. I suppose you have not had any preacher sons as boy friends. Let me tell you they are the worst. Sometimes living in such restrictive religious homes, will send an adult young person the opposite way of their parents. The Same with the young ladies.

If you have an y education in how cults or tight religious communities operate you would know that eventually young people rebel and seek freedoms that they would not have sought had they been a little less controlled.

As far as not causing a population explosion..... That family is already at that point. You really can not assume to know the heart of the home since all we see and clean smiling happy faces that are baough and paid for by a cable network.

If you had read any of the other responders and our interaction you would know that this did not really mean to be a free for all bashing of the Duggar rather then a discussion of reality.

I don't understand your response to what I wrote, because I didn't even suggest that any kind of Dugger-bashing was going on here--even though I've seen at least one forum at another site where most of the participants were simply tearing them to pieces.

So far, these kids seem to be happy--even the ones who are old enough to rebel.

One thing that might end up happening would be that some of the members of the younger generation will get out in the world and, while they won't trash their religious upbringing, they might modify it some and even convince their parents to loosen up some.

I know of one minister who was so overly strict that he thought that all women wearing jeans must be some terrible sinners.

Now, some of his kids (all daughters) are adults and teens, and I saw pictures of them on a family vacation, and at least one or two of the daughters were wearing jeans.

I've even seen it in my own family where one of my aunts and her daughter wouldn't have thought of wearing slacks at one time, but they do now, and they're just a Christian as they were back when they didn't.

Anyway, I happen to think that the Duggers are doing a great job of raising their kids.

These huge families aren't for everybody, but they work for some--and, obviously, for them.

Me? I was an only child, and there were various people who had a problem with that.

Families come in all sizes, and the most important ingredient is love!

One more thing...

Watch the original version of the movie Cheaper By The Dozen made back around 1950.

This family had 12 kids (six girls and six boys), and there were people who had a problem with that, but there were other people who admired them.

The two older girls--and, especially, the very oldest--thought that their dad was being a little too strict (to say the least), so it started with the oldest deciding to cut her hair during summer vacation at a beach cottage.

By the end of the summer, she was still respectable, but she was wearing her hair short, wearing lingere instead of long johns, and had on stockings and high heels.

The dad stayed strict in a lot of ways, but he got around to accepting his daughter's new way of dressing and quit thinking that young women who dressed as she did looked like Jezebel.

On the other hand, the daughter learned that her dad was actually admired by her peers--including her boyfriend--if they were thinking mature thoughts.

The ending is sad in how this daughter had just come to respect her dad on a greater level and had gotten much closer to him when he ended up suffering a fatal heart-attack.

Anyway, it's a really wonderful movie that I'd recommend to anyone.

Possibly, one or more of those Dugger girls will cut her hair and put on a pair of jeans in time, and I could, should this happen, see Jim-Bob coming around just like Frank did in the movie.

you are probably right about that... I have seen that older movie with my mother, as I have the ones with Steve martin. Thank you for that reminder:))

Stiletto, honestly thats the only way it could happen and your right. What this famliy does is that each older child has a younger one he she is responsible for. Mom takes care of the new born or youngest. I know from experience that eventually a certain amount of resentment creeps in. I had to take care of two young brothers starting at a very young age. An age no child should have to have that kind of responsibility.

So really what they have is a bunch of unpaid nannies. I think that's unfair on the older kids and I know about the resentment thing. My brother is ten years younger than me and I was often the babysitter. On reflection I wasn't really that put upon with it all but at the time it felt like the most unfair thing in the world lol. We get along ok as adults but boy did I resent him at times when he was a child!

Surfette, thank you for sharing your view with us:))