kids.....reason to stay or go?

I dont think that two people should stay together just for the sake of their kids. It really makes life miserable for everyone. Parents think that their children have no idea what is going on, but they know when something is different. If you are unhappy you should leave, and dont stay together for the kids or you could be doing them much more harm than good.

I want my child to grow up seeing an example of a healthy relationship. If my marriage was unhealthy, I'd leave.

Most women will put up for more "for the kids". They tend to think that the kids *have* to have mother/father dynamics to be well-adjusted, but what you don't know is that they know there are problems. They may not know what they are or why(depending on age), but they know something is wrong and that is NOT the environment to raise children in. Whether it's emotional abuse, physical abuse or just neglect, they can tell that you're not happy and it makes them unhappy. My mom "stayed for the kids", she didn't leave, or rather kick out, my father until I was almost 17. He was abusive to me and she never knew. She just assumed we were unaffected and never did anything.

kids means you should put up with less, a LOT less. Your children learn from you, do you want your kids to grow up thinking that a good healthy relationship is the kind they saw their mom in? Your sons will grow up to treat women like they see you being treated, and daughters will grow up expecting to be treated as you are. Thats the one thing you can't teach your children as a parent, they learn from watching, not from what you tell them. Check your messages while your at it lol.

personaly i dont kid tht u should be unhappy just for ur kids, they may not understand when their young, but as they get older they understand why u did it.

Well a lot of us tend to put up with a lot more when we have kids whereas we shouldn't be.Each time we feel we can't put with anymore we still try to hang on to whatever we have,trying not to back off simply because of teh kids.But what we don't understand is that this attitude won't help either.Kids would be affected deeply to see how things are not so normal in their house when they grow up whereas it is in their friend's place.So I think putting up with anything which you feel you wouldn't hadn't it been for the kids you should put your foot down and not withstand it.