trust me on this
By roniroxas
@roniroxas (10559)
Philippines
April 4, 2008 4:44am CST
TRUST is very powerful word. once you cant prove that then you cant gain any trust anymore. i have a friend and his husband always say trust me on this.... but she said that she always hears her husband say that but out of 10 times he said trust me on this he only did 5 right. so sometimes they get in a quarel when the guys says trust me on this and the girl makes a face. i mean for me my friend has a point... you cant just trust him to do something when you dont feel like he can do it. she cant trust her whole heartedly because out of 10 he does 5 right things. this is about making errands or paying bills... it is not about flirting or having an affair.
so i want to hear your views.... i cant advice anything to my friend for i am currently single. if you are in her situation will you still trust your partner about paying bills or running errands if you know that he/she will not fulfill it?
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5 responses
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
10 Apr 08
trust cant be put in a level of how many right decisions you have made and how many wrong decisions are there after trusting you...when you give your trust to someone,you will have to accept about its outcome because you have trusted him to do the task...if you dont wanted him to take all the blame...why both of you tackle the issue instead of only him...where both of you can come to a good decision where everybody wins and no losers...you cant trust someone if you are hesitant on his capabilities...and if so,why would you give your trust to him whom you think cant be trusted.... 
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
i really dont know what to say to my friend. i am a single mom and i handle anything and everything in my house. if i did something late then it is me i have to blame. i dont have someone who i can blame too. lol.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
11 Apr 08
well i think you are in a better position were there is no one to blame for wrong decisions but yourself....or you may try marrying again a man so there will be a reason to get someone to blame.....lol!i was only joking....
anyway,you can ask your friend to stop blaming her husband for the decisions that failed because when she trusted her husband,it only means that she also consented what ever decision her husband made and also indirectly liable for her husband action...like a team work...better help her husband to think of better ways to avoid errors in the future....
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
wow that is a very good response you just gave there. are you married?
yes i think blaming wont solve anything. i think she would feel bad too if her husband wont trust her in something like this.
for me... of course i want to marry again, i dont like to be single forever. i miss blaming someone too lol.
@wittyakanksha (436)
• India
9 Apr 08
i think trusting your partner when it comes to handling situations is the best booster you could do to them.it could be anything handling a tough guy at work or paying bills or even fixing something if you trust you partner about some job they think they can do they do it even better.once you stop trusting or start making faces they would lose interest in the job and would be unwilling to help in future thinking that their efforts are never appreciated.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
you have a point there. i will tell my friend what you said. i think my friend just have to trust what his husband says. but when is too much too much. i mean if he fails more than he says he can when is the time that my friend has to say "i think i have to do this", rather than waiting him to do it.
@anonymili (3138)
•
4 Apr 08
I don't think your friend's hubby is untrustworthy as such but just uses that expression "trust me on this" far too easily like some people say things like "you know what I mean" or "oh my God" or "you don't say" 100 times a day! If she knows he can't be relied on for paying bills or running errands after he's proved time and time again that he's not reliable, why does she still expect him to change... The only time that she should trust him to carry out what he said he would is when he proves it by say being reliable 5 ot 10 times in a row. Personally I would be far too worried about getting a bad credit rating to trust an unreliable partner to mess it up time after time :)
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
you have a good point there anonymili, yes he can be using the words "trust me on this" like an expression but my friend does not realize it yet. lol. thanks for that. i will tell her about your response.
@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Apr 08
Well, Trust me, we should trust on ourselves, though we shall listen to the others' words often to better know about ourselves as well.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
yes but the topic is about her husband. how can you trust again if you know that he wont fulfill a promise. and if she says that she will take care of it herself the husband gets angry. its kinda complicated.
@nice030481 (1109)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
in my situation now, i can trust my husband as what he do so to me.. no one yet cheated each other and i hope it could be last.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
good for you, i hope to that your relationship with your husband will last forever. but i am not talking about cheating. it is trust on errands to do and bills to pay.
