Does boys and books go hand in hand

I don't think it's pathetic not being in any relationship,you just have not met someone special.And as for the study thing,I just wonder why you have to study till 40.It's sort of too long from my view.But,anyway,if you really like it,then keep on studing!
Actually, studying and getting married are not against each other,you can have both in your life!

Hi sexyjo. I think that you can do what you want. If you like to study, do this. I, myself, have 3 university graduation and 1 pos-graduation. I'm single and have a daughter and I'm happy.I only had a relationship for ten years with my daughter's father and I can tell you it is so tiring! But my daughter worth all. So, if you want study till 40 do this! If you want a child do this! If you want try a relationship with someone, do this! Your life is YOUR LIFE. Don't follow people that say this or that.

your being single is your own choice. if you're content with who you are right now, that's all there is. marriage is not for everybody that's why there are so many divorces happening, what, in a day?

Hello my dear sexyjo Ji,
I think for learning and education there is no age bar any-where, also there are many things, which we learn as we grow in life without going to any school/college/institution etc. Your parents are right to advise you to make relation, in order to get you married and education may continue there-after. marriage is a social act to full-fill family continuation. Once you have attained this age, if you do not have any one till now, tell frankly to your parents/guardian/relative, who would find out a good life partner in form of your spouse and lead a good married life. Regarding studies, recently I came accross a post that '83 yrs old get PHD degree' even after marriage, one can continue one's study. So let's float in main stream of society, do not drift away. have a good time.

My parents had the exact same theory and I didn't want to believe them. Of course then I thought that friendships with boys would automatically lead to a relationship, which is often hardly the case.

When I had my first break-up, my grades in college went down. I was a straight A student in the previous terms but that term when I broke up, I plummeted to a C and even the lecturers were shocked.

Since then, I never allowed my relationship to interfere with my studies. I only started dating seriously when I was 22 and even then I was doing my postgrad. The first thing I told my then boyfriend was that when it's time to hit the books, it's time to hit the books - I don't care if he whines or complains about it.

It turned out to be good for me but bad for our relationship. He ended up resenting my near perfect GPA score and it added to his insecurity. Needless to say, we broke up shortly after I graduated. One of the things I always told myself then was "If only I had kept my options opened...I'd have met some other nice guy(s)..." Of course if that happened, I wouldn't have met my hubby. LOL!

When you're a working adult with no academic commitments, it's easier on the relationship and yourself. Focusing on studies AND doing well while you're tackling the emo-ness of a relationship can be tough for a lot of people. When you're working, well, it's just work, a social life and the boyfriend...not exams, assignments, classes, a social life and the boyfriend.

Hey, 25 is not old...I started dating again when I was nearing 25 and I got married at the age of 28. I have friends who are hitting their 30s and mid-35s, and they are getting married. Don't listen to those people who bug you to marry - you should marry when the time and man is right.*hugs*

I don't see any comedy or contradictions in your parents.
So, they don't like this 'relationship' thing as they are conservatives in their thinking.
If there is enough money to support a wife why not select someone that pleases your parents and that would look after them in their old age with a 'willing' mind.
I see nothing of the kind happening in the 'relationship' society.
In it 'aged parents' are shoved away to a 'caring-home' to be at the mercy of strangers.
Please tell me if you would prefer, one day, a life in a 'caring-home'?
I am sure you won't as you are sensitive to the feelings of your parents.
Do not worry your heart is in the correct position and you will find someone you would appreciate next to you soon.
And that 'someone' too would be as rare as you are.
Your parents are lucky and blessed ones, indeed.