parenting

I love my wife,but sometimes shes really a pain coz she complains that i dont give her attention when i do, she says am too much,also she complains if i discipline her child,we met when she had the child from another relationship,she wanta me to contact her when caning the boy,when i do that she says that if i am contacting her when disciplining the boy she complains idont love the boy,wht do u think i should do?