Motherhood

April 16, 2008 4:20am CST
Have I wasted my time? I am a married 'single parent, i.e. husband works away so on my own with kids most of the time. The thing is my kids' are increasingly becoming difficult to communicate with, they totally disregard anything I say as anything of importance or relevance to them. I am in rut with them and don't how to change things. Does anyone have any suggestions how to improve things?
1 response
yoj118
@yoj118 (346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
i sort of understand how you feel about your children totally disregarding everything you are saying...well my case, i have two kids ages 3 and 4..my eldest just started schooling while my son still can't talk... I'm also a homemaker, just stay at home, do all the chores, take care of the kids, etc.. I also feel tired and burdened at times especially if I'll compare the time when I still have a career, and our kids stayed with a nanny... but the more you see things that way, the more it gets hard on you and the more burdened it may feel.. so i tried to enjoy the time spent with my kids, at home, even though they're really naughty and playful, but hey! they're kids!! what can I do about it... just try to communicate with your children in a manner they will feel you love them and care for them that's why you are telling this and that..it's for their own sake... sometimes we parents just need to be more patient with our kids...but it's worth it.. good luck..
josiewebster
@josiewebster (2)
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22 Apr 08
Thanks for your reply. You are right about trying to enjoy time spent with the kids, i have done all that. But now that they are all much older and need to lead their own lives a bit i feel i am a spare part. They are grumpy and prefer to talk to their sister about personal problems than me. I thought we were close but they just keep pushing me away. I suppose it's changes I have to accept and move on in life. All I can say for you is make sure both of you have the time for your kids because my husband has worked away for years and they resent it and tell me he should not have any parental input at all, they say, 'he has never been there'.