husband with different culture

Chinese culture is worst.. im sorry to be too vocal. dont mean to offend chinese, especially my husband. Ther "chinese are for chinese" practised? really discriminating for us non-chinese girls. To make a distinction in favor of chinese girls and against non-chinese girls? see what i mean? Its so unfair... It hurts me all the time.

I dont think i could fully understand you. But for love, it is unconditional, no matter what culture he has experienced before, i deeply believe "true love" can "kill" every difficulties on your way ahead, however i think it is his fault to bring his "bad" culture into your love, this is probably what we called "?????(mandrocentrism)" in Chinese i wish you could find a way to make him to change with your love although i know this is very hard but chances always exists.

to be honest,you two need to take a good and deep communication to melt the "misunderstanding" between you because i know it is hard, sometimes even cant imagine for someone to understand or accept the culture from other nation which is culture conflict. so just calm down and be confident with your parnter....

Good luck!

Thanks Andrew! I've got no problem with my husband at all. He's so loving, caring, understanding and responsible. I can feel that he is soooo inlove with me and I am too but from what his parents trying to let me see... (there "chinese are for chinese" practised) produced a harmful effect to our relationship as a couple although im trying so hard not to get affected but Im just human I get hurt and get tired. And now i can feel the kindling emotion is slowly out of blaze.

I agree with you andreshaw...the wife must trust her husband because her husband will not allow her life to be ruined by his family. They should work together and continue to love one another because after all, they met and fell in love with each other...not with their families, although it would matter but in the end, the couple would be responsible for their own lives and will not depend on their families to live...

Excuse me pescoe... the trust issue is ruined already because whither he allowed or not his family to destroy me, they still succeed. Im a total wrecked already. Im maybe still alive but deep within me is dead. So now tell me, where is the security? Your right its me and my husband met and fell inlove with each other not our families but did you know that family is a big factor? the most strong intruder and powerful destroyer? Oh, you should know that!

mommah...your husband is not at fault at this...you know that he loves you so much right? you can't blame him for his culture because he acquired it at birth...as for the trust...you should never lose your trust in him...I'm sure his finding ways for you not to think about his family...

Pescoe... im not blaming my husband at all. Im just showing everyone how his family and their culture affects me as a person and our relationship. The damage it caused! intiendes?!

Yeah, your husband have accepted u completely but his family doesn't because of there SELFISH PRACTICES, and yeah it matters a lot and it affects very deep to a good relationship. Like mine... even we're fighting together so hard but im just human. I get hurt and got tired also. So now? our relationship became cold because his family is so determine in destroying us as a couple... see my point?