I asked him to bring his girlfriend to meet the kids first but he said no.  

OK some of you may remember when I posted the last discussion about this called "Should I let my kids go? I need advice" but some of you suggested that I ask him to bring his girl friend up here and meet the kids, So I did, and he flat out said NO He says she cant come up because her baby is sick (she has digeorge syndrome) and she has to see the doctor all the time. BUT the last time I talked to him about the baby he said she had been doing really well and hadn't been going as much. Now what gets me is that he just flat out says NO He doesn't say Let me talk to her about it or anything its just NO. My friend thinks hes trying to hide her not from us as in shes a bad person but that hes hiding her from meeting his family and everyone so that she finds out the true him. so what do you all think?