Has Anyone Ever Told You To Get Out Of Their House?

@sunkissed (4330)
United States
April 29, 2008 6:25pm CST
Well Today was really a bad day for me. I have been with my partner for over 10 years. We have been having quit a few problems in our relationship. Well last night we had an argument, I caught him in a lie.I was very upset. We went to bed. When we got up this morning, he started in on me.I had to Get a shower and do my hair because I had to go to therapy.He would not let me, he unpluged the curling iron threw it on the bed, along with my tooth brush and comb, and told me to "Get the f==k out of his house". I was devisted I said no problem!!We said some more things, I went out the door as fast as I could, then he came out grabed my key ring, and said he wanted his key back!!
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9 responses
• United States
1 May 08
Wow, that's pretty scary, especially after you've been married for as long as you have. I've never been told that thankfully, but I think I'd be ready to leave if that's how I was going to be treated constantly, especially if I was going to be lied too all the time. I would have left without being told to leave.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
15 May 08
Thank you. It was a very bad feeling that I had that day, but I did leave.
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@agfarm (930)
• United States
1 May 08
Dear Sunkissed....I see myself getting angry.....and I'm not the One telling it. The Best thing for you to do is make a Clean-Break. Hey...there are other fish in the Ocean. If he has hurt you so Bad with this Lie, then it's not the first and it won't be the Last. Like the song says....These boots were made for walkin' Leave it all and Find someone who will treat you right!
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
15 May 08
Thanks so much.You are right.There are other fish in the sea.And if there is one lie, there will be more.
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@buldwgz (1489)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Wow, Sunkissed, that is a horrible situation to be in. It is, I admit to this point in my life, one that I have not been a part of. I can't imagine the pain you must feel and the betrayal. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that things will work out for you one way or another.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
1 May 08
Thank You so very much, I need all the thoughts and prayers I can get. I am very happy this has not happened to you. I would not wish it on my worst enemy.I am hurting very bad right now, and the betrayal is terriable. But it will get better in time.
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@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
As I read your post, I know it's difficult for you now, and that you are upset. But I know you can recover soon. I experienced being told to get out of their house three times. It happened when I was younger. It was difficult for me and caused me much pain. Honestly, as I type this response, I am in tears. I'm just thankful to God that I'm still alive today! Thank you for this post.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Thank You so much for your response,And your Empathy.Yes, I am very upset and hurt. But you are right it will get better in time.He too has put me out ones before, but never used the words he used today. These words, I will never forget! I too was in a very abusive relationshipe for 8 years before this one.I never thought I would go through this verbal abuse again..But life does go on.I am happy that you are well too, God Bless
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@gemini_rose (16264)
30 Apr 08
Oh my that is terrible, have you managed to sort it out? That sounds really upsetting, I do not know what I would do if my hubby did that, well he could not actually do that anyway as the house is in both our names so I could just refuse to go!! But joking aside that is a situation that I have never been in, before I married my hubby and we got our own place together I always had my own place, in just my name so no one could ever do that to me. I really hope that things are alright for you.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Thank You so much.No I have not even tried to talk to him.I see no need.He really showed me how he felt that day, I will have to move on with my life, though it is very hard.I am sure your hubby would never even dream of doing anything like this to you.
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@Breath (1297)
• United States
30 Apr 08
My heart feels for you...I know you r going through a lot of pain and sadness...I am going through almost the same thing with my husband.He has nto told me to GET OUT just yet but the feeling is in the air...I know anyday he is going to say those words to me...Just try to stay calm and hold your head up... Back off and give him a little time.Give your self some time and use it to just think if this is what you want in your life...Is it worth it if your going tobe upset all the time...I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers..If you ever want to talk I am here...HUGS!!!
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Thank you so much breath,I hope you will never have to go through what I went through today. These words will stick with me for the rest of my life!!I am hurting so bad. I really do not know what to do.I already know we can never live with each other. We are together every night, but I am so glad to come home everyday. He criticizes everything I do.No it is not worth being upset all the time.I know I need to move on with my life.Thank you for the prayers I need them, I will be praying for you as well.Hugs..
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
14 May 08
that was mean and horrible. i also experience that kind of thing on my brother also. it happened on me many times. he thinks that he's the one who owns our parent's house and whenever we argue he told me that i shouldn't go home because he might kill me if i would go home. my mother also told me to get out of her house because we argued on something and ended up yelling with each other. i quickly grab my backpack and prepare some of my clothes then she asked me what am i doing. i told her that i would leave because she told me so. then after that, she told me to unpack my bags
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
15 May 08
Well I am sorry for you too, it is not a good way to have to live your life.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
4 May 08
I know you won't appreciate this right now but believe me when i say if he lied to you once it probably wasn't the first time and the fact that HE got angry when you found out could be just plain guilt or fear that you will find out something else that he's been up to. Everytime i caught my ex-husband in a lie he would get furious throw things and act like a jackass in general, that was his way of changing the subject and for awhile it worked. After i finally divorced him i couldn't believe the stuff he had been doing and that some of my "friends" knew an didn't tell me.So in the end it was goodbye to bad rubbish(husband and so-called friends).anyway life does not end when a relationship ends, it just takes you in a different direction and who knows you may like the new direction better.I'm so sorry that you are hurting and will keep you in my thoughts.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
15 May 08
Thank you so much, and I am sorry for what you too went through. You are right, life does indeed go on.And we do go in differant directions.
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14 May 08
Oh my god that must be awful for you! Is it his house then I take it? Where have you gone to? I've never been in that situation but I'm in the process of splitting up with my boyfriend now, and he's going to move out but I would NEVER have done taht to him - he has 2 weeks (considering it will be pay day). And that's because it's my parent's house. I hope you've srted it now.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
15 May 08
Well yes it was his house, but we did not live together, I have my own house. I went there every night, and came hoome everyday when he went to work.I did have a key to his house.Sorry about your situation too.