My In-Laws Are Racist/Stereotypical People!
By rockvixen
@rockvixen (894)
United States
May 5, 2008 1:57pm CST
So I recently found out that the reason my father-in-law (stepdad of my husband) does not like people of Spanish, Latin or Mexican race. I'm Spanish, and everytime I've been around him he's always given me a bad look. I've told my mother-in-law and my husband about this, and they say "Don't worry about it". My father-in-law has even made racist comments on my race and no one ever stands up for me, and if I stand up for myself, then I get a lecture on how I need to act.
My mother-in-law does not like blacks,Chinies and some Hispanics, she says they are all lazy. That really bothers me because she is not only being stereotypical but she's also being disrespectful, yet she says she is not meaning it towards me.
My husband has NEVER defends me, and like I said if I do it myself I'll get a lecture from my husband or my mother-in-law about it.
I love my husband and all but you know I just wonder what he really thinks of all this, because when I ask, he says "don't worry about it".
2 responses
@djedtek (230)
• United States
5 May 08
if your husband doesnt defend you when your trying ot be right on a subject like this, you need to sit down and have a talk with him. he should be supportive enough where he defends what ever you say on such a subject and also know when you drwn the line with in laws. i can understand that it is his parent but at the same time his parent should have respect for you as your his wife. trust me im dealing with the same thing (on both sides) but in the end you just need to talk to your spouse and let him know how you really feel and not let him guess your weight on the equation!
@agfarm (930)
• United States
5 May 08
This is an interesting Topic Rockvixen.........
Here's my take on it. People are not going to change un less they want change.
My Advice ( or at least what I would do ) I would take my Walkman , or Ipod or whatever the latest Music Device craze is. When you go over to your In-laws.....when your Father in Law Starts Being Rude.....If you don't absolutely leave the room , I would tune Him out untill he notices that you're not Listening to Him.
But....on a Serious Note......I would ask him what the real problem is....if he can't give you an answer.....then maybe you should consider Shortening your visits. Clearly this person has unresolved thoughts/issues ( just a guess )
I'm no Doc. Maybe his wife doesn't Chase him around the house anymore and that's the real issue!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck Dear! XXXXXXXXXXXXXOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Rogue



