I need to help a friend! Can you give advice?

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I was about to pass up this discussion, as I too hate being alone, its the very reason why I picked up and moved to my grandmother's house when my children's father left us. But I just had an idea that would solve her problem, and put some money into your pocket. Does she have a computer? Internet? Introduce her to MyLot!!! She will have all the friends she needs here. She can get her feelings out, and get responses from all over the world. Well, I don't have to sell you on the idea, you're already here!!! So sell her on the idea of MyLot. Once she gets hooked the problem will be getting her to leave the house lmao!!!

i'm not really sure how to cure loneliness. i think that depends to the person who's lonely..i mean, i feel lonely too when i was single though i lived with room mates. what i was doing then was go out. Go to the mall, watch movies that i really like or just buy something that might cheer me up and eat in a restaurant. I always go back to my mom's house and that makes me feel really happy and complete. everything changed when i got married and lived with my husband. before i was thinking of the future and i always end up thinking, "am i going to be alone forever?." but ofcourse i didn't. I would like to suggests doing some things that can make her busy and get the thought of being lonely out of her mind. But i think it actually depends to her what will make her happy. first of all she should realize the things that makes her happy. You can try asking her to go out and eat some icecream while talking over with something really interesting. Or try to know her interests (hiking, going out to the beach, do some charity works, reading a good book, watching movies etc.). Or maybe she just needs to get married. I'm not really sure and no one knows how to cure that loneliness she feels but if you would like to really help her, i suggests start talking to her and find out why she's lonely and tell her she's the only one who will know what will make her happy and needs to figure that out. You might find something that you can do to make her realize she's not alone.

Being alone is a very terrible experience, it may lead to depression. From now on, her friends should show more concern to her, as for her boyfriend, she can dump him for not taking good care of her or she is just too greedy, having a boyfriend is not enough though she lives alone. How about asking your friend to get married with her boyfriend then have kids then she will not be alone anymore.

she is not nuts she is suffering from depression and
needs to go to her doctor and get some help. also
she needs a job workingwith people. I worked for yearsin our local library as a page and we got to be one big happy family she needs to do something to get out of her mindset
even if she only does volunteer work.living alone can be
miserable or it can be fulfilling onlyis you have some life
interests and start to care for other people.work as a volunteer
in a hospital you will soon quit feeling sorry for yourself
and start giving of yourself. she needs to be needed and to
get outside of herself and her self pity. My husband died in 1991 but myson came to live with me but I am alone a lot now as I no longer work so I mylot which is fun for me.

Even though I am not alone anymore, I used to hate it also.
Your friend really needs to get some interests.
If she has the money, she should get a computer, and join Mylot,
This certainly passes the time of day for a lot of us.

She can read, garden, sew, there are so many things to do.
There are heaps of different classes she could join, to learn things she does not know how to do.
Heaps of different community groups to be joined.

Maybe she just likes people feeling sorry for her.
And does not want to help herself.

It's quite confusing.I have been living alone for many years.And I enjoy the time when I was alone,because I can arange my own time freely.It's amazing,Is'n it.

Hi slickcut.
Sometimes you could be around people and still feel alone,and that could very well be a sign of depression.It sounds as if your friend's feelings of loneliness goes deeper than the physical sense of the word.Her constant need to be around people could be a sign that she has a problem.I wish i could tell you what you can do to help her,but besides having a heart to heart conversation with her i'm at a lost as to what else can be done on your part.I wouldn't say she is nuts though.

Does she have a job? I have an ex-sil like this. She lives on gov't disability and mostly sits around and vegs out. It drives her daughter crazy, when she calls, and the daughter is constantly trying to get her to get involved in something. This lady is on medication and it seems to compound the problem as she is sleepy all the time. She sleeps and gains weight.

I don't like to be alone either. Before our son came I was a stay-at-home wife and I was remodeling our house. LOL! I textured walls, repainted, stained, whatever I could get done alone before my husband came home from work. But then, I have a hard time sitting still unless my hands are busy.

I do agree that she needs something to do to keep her mind from focusing on the negative. If she doesn't work then there are tons of volunteer things that she could do that would help others. She could volunteer at the local animal shelters, nursing homes, library, etc. Helping someone else is often the best way to help yourself. Maybe, to get her started, you could come up with something she could do for you. My niece is going to ask her mom to sew some outfits for her daughter, to give her something to do. She will buy the material and notions and give them to her mom and hope that she will finish the projects. Something like that, you know? She really needs to be busy doing something. Does she like to write, maybe she could start a book, or go on Helium or a similiar site.

You're a good friend for trying to empathize even though it's out of your spectrum!!

Maybe she is depressed or just love to hang out with friends. I agree with someone here, she needs to have a roommate so she has someone to interact with every now and then, Personally, there are moments in mylife that I want to be alone so I can relax most, concentrate and accomplish something, she is not thinking about it Im sure, she is the person who can't stand to be alone and maybe will start to self pity if she will not go out and hang out with friends!