You Know!  | |  For everyone that has been in a bad relationship, I have come to the conclusion that as human beings we know when we are walking into a bad situation. BUT, the majority of us ignore the blessing called INTUITION, and enter into bad marriages or relationships nevertheless. WHY? Who do you have to blame but yourself if the man, for example, has a bad temper and likes to smack you around? Ten times out of ten, YOU knew that the man had anger problems and he was smacking you around BEFORE you said I DO. Granted, spousal abuse is WRONG, but you did know how he was before you agreed to marry him.
My first marriage was terrible, but guess what? I had a FEELING that something wasn't right with him before we were married. He was a liar, plus my family didn't like him. I eventually separated myself from him 11 months into the marriage and then divorced him. YAY!! Some people aren't so blessed to get out of a bad situation.
Let me hear your thoughts as to why many people get themselves into these situations while having the prior insight about that individual. Insight and our feelings are blessings from God, which we must not ignore. If we do, we are bound for hardships in the end.
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| | | | | | 1.  quiltedblessings (878) | 3 months ago |  okay, first off, I will say that you may be right in some cases, certainly not 10 out of 10 times.
I married when I was 19. I had dated him for 2 years. I was totally in love with him., He was the sweetest, kindest man that I had ever met. He never had a bad word or deed toward me.
After we had been married for about 6 months, he started acting violently toward me. After a year, it was no longer threats. He was hitting me, and hard. Because we lived in Hawaii, I had no family near by, no friends either. I was trapped. It took me 2 years of planning and taking the abuse before I could escape.
Do not put your self righteous crap onto others. Just because you have never been punched in the face, had a bone broken, or whatever, you have no idea of what goes on in domestic abuse.
Did I see it coming, hell no! I would have run in the other direction. Did it almost kill me, yep. In trying to rescue my two infant sons, I almost died. Did he come and find me later, after I ran, yea he sure did. I have been in the hospital because of him, more times than I can count. Does the Police care? Nope, not really. He has never even been questioned let alone arrested.
I find your post very offensive. Seriously. I am a survivor, and I did not choose to be such. I chose to be a wife and mother, not a punching bag.
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| razzberryswirl (6) | 3 months ago | I never intended my discussion to be OFFENSIVE. My first marriage was bad as well. However, I am saying that there are signs, even very small ones that we may either ignore or overlook because we are not paying attention. I am sorry for your situation. I too had to plan to get out as well. When the opportunity presented itself, GOD blessed me to get out. Again, please don't take offense and please see the deeper meaning in my discussion other than the 10 out of 10 times. | |
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| | 2.  madlees (1116) | 3 months ago |  Hi,
That's why we call it "Love is Blind". You seem to ignore what your inner mind tell you, not only your inner mind even your parents and other well wishers.
They will know and can understand better than you. Those who love you and care for you, give you good advice. They only think about what is good for you. But Love is very strong, you tend to think of the person as above all these normal deficiencies. Even when others tell us we will not believe.
Another point is even when our own inner conscience tells us that we are wrong or there is something wrong altogether, we think everything will be all right after marriage and that we'll be able to take care of it. But it is wrong we can never do that. It actually gets worse after marriage because we tend to get taken for granted and then a door mat. That is the time we start thinking about divorce and it gets very late by then . We would have suffered a lot in their hands by that time.
So always pay attention to what your inner mind and the people close to you tell you. You'll be saved from a lot of heart trouble later. Don't you think so?
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| razzberryswirl (6) | 3 months ago | Yep, good points. Some women think they can change a man. Well, I know for a fact you can't change an old dog. LOL. I actually learned from my first marriage what types of things to look out for when dealing with men. I learned so much from my past, that I could spot a conartist a mile away.
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| madlees (1116) | 3 months ago | No one can ever change anyone. That is their way of handling things. There are some who think they can change but that is actually impossible. We'll just get ended up in a rut without knowing what to do. I have seen this happening around me, cannot correct them either. Love is blind... very very blind... later they come withtheir complaints, but we cannot tell them "I told you so " either.... | |
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