Is Divorce the best option?

If you're both willing to work hard for the relationship, and love and care, honor each other, then I think things can work.

If one is a lying, adulterer, I don't think anyone needs to deal with that. And trust, Divorce would come from my lips.

If a relationship has trust, and they care and respect each other, and as the person actually is, then I think most things can be overcome...

I think that if 2 people love each other and they have trust and communication in the marrige there isn't much that can't be worked out. I have been married a long time and it has not always been easy but we have the tools it takes. I heard all my life that a marrage has to be fifty fiftybut I have found that to not be true. Both people have to be willing to give 100% all of the time.

Yes, my dear friend. If we always baths our relationship with forgiveness and patience, mostly it will endure, even though we had the bad conflicts in the relationship. Like your friend case, they both had a mutual thought of looking forward to continue the relationship. This is a scarce price that many of nowadays couples have. It's rare, expensive, and hard to gain. It's called the Patience.

We can't look down for a divorce. For some reasonable occasion, it's required. Such as the unrepairable relationship which the person had used the greatest vitality and emotional-fuels consumptions, but it won't make any better, the partner won't eager to fetch the intention. Then we must appreciate this person decision to file the divorce. On the other side, the person who had been divorced must learn on why he/she had that from the partner. If can't, then it would be hardly to make a good relationship should if next one is appeared.

There is an exception that a unique couple, which is my friend's, they feel loving each other if they always quarreled, because they get known each other from quarrel introduction. On the contrary, they felt empty when they're not. It's incredible to me, they had been together for 12 years. Maybe they get used to it, even a fragile quarrel might be looked as a common quarrel to them. Yet, none of them want to leave each other. After quarrel, they always 'complain' to us as her friends. But then, they get better again.

As a result, the key is on how a person eagerly continue the relationship or not. But a divorce that was made because of one little tiny cause, would be the greatest regret. It takes more time to heal or attach it back. Because a divorce means the stronger smacked-whip to the heart, either us or our partner, not yet to our kids. When they see 'that' way, we might lead them into it. Because kids have always followed their parents, that because from-parents is more secured for them.

Kids that always saw their parents who always appreciating and loving to each other. They will build their emotional just like what we're expecting. They will grow up as person who can value the appreciation, and use it well. That because they had seen and grabbed the sample from their parents. At least, their emotional is solid, once they walked their path outside of home. But an exception, there are some who may learn better from the pain he/she get from opposite family environment. It's just need someone to always guide this kid's personality, a wise elder from the relatives or other environment will be the better one.