What to do with a stubborn kid?

It all depends a lot on their upcoming. If guided properly during early childhood (3-6 Yrs), they must not grow stubborn. But in case they become insisting/nagging in nature, the best way to deal with the situation is to control the situation with a strong hand. If you continue to make the kid understand his/her mistakes, it will induce debating character in him. After all little bit of scolding does not do much harm so far and so long it is done keeping a limit and just at the right moment.
But if things go beyond your control, then one must seek for advices from experts.

Good question. I suppose it depends on the age as to how much punishment one can dish out. Definitely loss of privileges, including toys, TV time, computer time, extracurricular activities, etc. The older they are the more you can drive the point home as to why it is bad when something doesn't get done. Something like assign their allowance as money to chores. If the chores don't get done, there is no allowance. If only some chores get done, there is only some allowance. If you have to do their job, you don't have time to drive them to their special activities. Things like that.

However, if the child does as told, depending on what it was, there should be a reward for good behavior which can reach from just praise to special dessert to special outing. Just make sure that they learn not to expect praises and rewards everytime they do something, lol.

well if it were me, i would just leave them alone. the best way to deal with them is to leave them alone when they are throwing a tantram. They are children at the end of the day. they would try their luck and if they cannot succeed they will give in. The more you give in the more they will do.

I will make a soft approaching rather than taking kids' argument down with punishment or neglecting. Then I will use it to make an equal subject fairly to meet our both requirement. Of course, it's to be a conditionally situation.

Rewarding is one of the solution. A kid that was raised with an appreciation will always learn to appreciate their parents, later when he is in the community. Teaching a kid, especially a boy is how we treat on our husband. If we manage to understand our husband, we can deal the situation. Daughters is explanatory, they are with our side. Only need a bit shape for the "naughty" one in her teen age. That's why we need to prepare them from childhood to not let a violence or bad act into kid's emotional growth.

We need to maximize the communication with them. The more we open to them, the more they will try to seek us for advice should if they need help. Because they feel secure about us. That's why you ever saw why a kid is usually find which one, his dad or his mom, if he/she meets problem. Which one is more secure and comfortable to talk with, he/she will go for it.

So, shape up your kids personality from they are still small. Avoid using violence or threating process, you may but only for imminently situation. Use good approaching until they compound a trust and empathy to us. Once they always receive an appreciation, then they will grow to always appreciate us in return.

UGH I have been going through this very thing lately with my kids..more so my son who all of a sudden thinks the world should revolve around his nearly 15 yr old arse...What do I do? LOL give them right royal hell about it...Which I'll be doing as soon as they behinds are out of bed (I almost woke them up at 5:30 this morning cause I was so angry about them not doign their chores last night like I aske them to)....My daughter isnt TOO bad cause she REALLY doesnt like to cross me but my son lately has been a troublesome bugger which I'm putting to an end today