Do you let your children see you cry???

i dont realy intend to let them see me cry but sometimes when they know im going through something they would just go to my room and hug me...like my eldest when im crying he would always wanna lay down in the bed with me...soemtimes he doesnt say anything but thats his way of letting me know he is there for me...my kids are 11 and 10 years.

I have only one child and he's 5 years old. There was a time that I couldn't stop the tears from falling and he saw it. He was so young at that time that trying to make an explanation to him won't work. What he did though surprised me and made me want to cry more. My son didn't say anything. He just looked at me and touched my face and the tears.

So, I just smiled and wiped my tears and gave him a big warm hug. But now, that he's a little older, I do hide my tears. I don't want to worry him or make him upset.

I dont think its good for children to see their parents cry.
The children may not know just what the crying is all about and may misunderstand it all.

There is no harm in letting them see you upset but at the same time a short explanation may help them,

But most things in Adults are very confusing at the best of times and a child cannot grasp any part of it.

No I never hide it, I use to but then I suffered a very close loss and obviously I was crying all over the place and my children especially my son was very concerned, I could see it in his face but like you I reassured them and explained why I was and that it was natural and not to worry and they responded well to that also I feel it is better to show them a good range of emotions because that's life you can't protect them from everything and crying, it is just as natural as laughing just we feel we should not show this to our children we have to be strong, not really how things are for real and they also need to know this.

When I was small, my mom would cry sometimes and it's hard to hide it in a small appartment. I think there is nothing wrong with it. I don't know why parents would hide it from their children. I want to know when my mom or dad is feeling sad so i can cheer up. When something happens, i remember bringing them some sweets or stuff like that. I do ask them what hapenned and they just say that it's too complicated for my age. So I try to behave and be a good girl to not make things more complicated.

Hi my friend Im sorry your going thru some emotional times. I dont like to cry in front of anyone. But sometimes it just cant be helped. Like last week the day before I went in the hospital for my surgery I was over my aunts house and when I was leaving I started to cry. I guess I was just nervous. Sometimes kids can make you feel better. They just have that innocense about them. Hope your feeling better.

I do let my children see me cry only sometimes though. When it is my situation I try to hide it..but like when my daughter was in the hospital in March we all cried. It was the first night that she wasnt here and my fiance went into her room to pick up a few things and he started to cry because he sometimes tucks her in. Well, I heard him and the boys did too...so we all hugged and cried all together.

I think sometimes its good. You don't want to completly shelter your children from emotions. If Mommy always hides it when she cries then the kids are going to think it's not ok to cry in front of people. I do once in a while cry in front of them. It's healthy for them to see some of all emotions.

It really depends on the situation. All my children are grown now and I still hate for them to see me cry, but if your child never sees you cry he/she may get the feeling that it's shameful to cry or worse yet they may regard you as someone with less feeling than they have. That can either frighten them, or make them cold toward you. So yes, sometimes it's ok for the children to see you cry. They need to know that Mom is a fully human person with a full range of emotions.

as much as i want, i hide my tears from my children. but sometimes when situations can't be avoided they see me cry and when they asked, i just reply..nothing, i'm just sad.