What do you think?
By longbangod
@longbangod (1785)
Philippines
8 responses
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
17 May 08
of course, there is nothing wrong helping family members in need. For me, that's an obligation...isn't it, Long? ;)
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
18 May 08
Yup, its part of our obligation. Its very hard to turn our backs to people who are expecting and depending from us. I know you are doing it also May, soon God will give rewards to good people like you and me.
God bless us all!
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@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
19 May 08
Yes, HE always does! And I am soooo thankful for that, thankful for what I've received everyday. And above all I am thankful for my life. I hope HE'll continue to bless me so that I can continue to help others. shokran Gazillan! :)..
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
17 May 08
Hello,longbangod,.... Yes, i feel, it is wrong to help others financially.because it disturb friendship.your friends know your financial position and yet if somebody wants financial assistance and if you failed to comply he will go against you,and if you comply you suffer the loss.in either case you are in an awkward situation.so it is better to avoid assisting such friends.thanx.
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@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
17 May 08
I completely agree! I have encountered such situation and it's kinda tough. Either to help the family members or friends, there should be limitations. Sometimes they will tell yoy that they will pay you with interest but when the time comes of paying, they already forgot the so called interest and put you in a difficult situation. If you will get mad then you're the bad guy...does my response make any sense..lol.. (kinda sleepy already..and have to ask my friend tomorrow about the money that she borrowed from me 5 months ago..with interest.. ;))
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
18 May 08
This is the problem when your friends and relatives think since you are working abroad, you already have a lot of money. Since they didnt know most of my obligations they are still thinking I have lots of extra money thats why it is also easy for them to ask for financial help. and this made me sad most of the times. Saying NO is really hard but they have to understand also.
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
17 May 08
I think it depends upon the situation of whom you are going to be helping to and who you are going to help. If it's really badly needed or if it's an emergency, it's ok to help but if it's for what we say in Tagalog is "sutento" I think you should think first. You should learn to prioritize your obligations. For me, It's always family first. If you have extra budget then go ahead.
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
18 May 08
You are right, but sometimes I find it hard to really discern the gravity of their needs. Whats in my mind is simply to help even if I still have my own obligation.
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@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 May 08
There is nothing wrong of extending hands to other, who you think really needs help. It is really hard to say if it's right or wrong to help others when you still have your own problems or obligations. I myself is not that good in helping others, i guess, for I got more problems as well. And to think of it, I have nothing more to give. Let's leave the judgement to the One Above...
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
18 May 08
I know theres nothing wrong in helping other people. And I am always delighted to be of help to them, but yah the problem is we also have our own obligation so we need to give priority into it. The hard thing is to say NO to them.
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@teena22 (422)
• Italy
17 May 08
i guess it's never wrong to help others. of course we all have our own obligations, but human as we are, we always tend to think of others before ourselves. me for instance, i tend to owe money from others to help others. aw...i guess that's a good thing for me. as long as i never compromise my own problems.
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@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
18 May 08
I know you and I know what you can do just to help other people. I am also like you most of the time. To the extent of borrowing money to other people for me to be able to help my friends or relatives. But I am really thinking if its really wrong when I also have my own obligations.
I will just pray that God will bless us more so we could have the capacity to help...
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@excellence7 (3698)
• Mauritius
17 May 08
In such a circumstances, i will rather advise you, to sort out your priority: more explicitly, its as follows, you are already determined to help your mate, right? Now, to discern between the right and wrong of what you stated, you need to really know, whose trouble is more intense at that very moment..
Good advice, thanks!
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
18 May 08
I think that your obligations should be taken care of first. It is alright to help others out financially but in helping them out you don't want to put yourself in a bind. There are things that a person has to take care of and that has to be priority. Than if you have money left then it is alright to help someone else out who needs it.
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
20 May 08
I agree with you, it is really best to deal with your own obligations first before helping others, but sometimes we just cant turn our backs to those who really need our help.
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
18 May 08
Hi There,
That is a tricky one...but I have certainly lived it. I think it depends on the circumstances. It is true that we all have our own obligations, but other's plight may be far more extreme. It actually may make our own obligations look quite mild. In such respects I think it is perfectly ok and honourable to give others a helping hand.
cheers,
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
20 May 08
Thanks for the nice comment, you are right, there’s no wrong in helping others even we still have our own obligations, as long as we would not jeopardize our own family, its just okay to lend a helping hand especially when the need of others is with urgency and under extreme necessity.
