Friend requests when they have no posts

Well, I am a new person here on MyLot and I too feel the same way. I do not by any means have 100 posts but have responded to quite a few. And have posted only a handful of my own. I have friends on here mainly because they are people that requested me or because I really enjoy responding to that specific persons posts. I run into the same people a lot and enjoy reading what they have to say so I requested them as a friend. However, I find it kind of weird that you'd only take a friend if they don't have at least 100 posts. Some people come on mylot to just respond to posts not to post discussions. I know that's how it started for me at least. I spent at least 2 weeks on here responding until I posted my first discussion. The reason for this is because of the fact that I don't want to post something I'm not passionate about. And sometimes I can't think of anything to say unless I read a discussion on it. Not only that but I have read plenty of posts about people complaining that people were duplicating posts and I definitely don't want that to be me either. I want to be 100% genuine and the only way I can do that is to respond to something that catches my attention. And then if I think of a question while responding I may just post a discussion about it. Sorry so long but I am new and I feel that I would never get any friends on here if I had to wait until I had 100 posts for anyone to add me as their friend.

I'm getting very picky about friends request as well. It does make me scratch my head when I too get a friend request and they have zero points, like duh? How did they find me, and why? There is one person here for instance who only has four, count em, four points...do you know how many friends he has on his list??? A whopping 8613 and counting...like huh? He had asked me as a friend, and I did accept, but when I saw that his points weren't rising but his friends list kept rising like crazy I thought...something isn't right here, so deleted him Now when someone asks me as a friend I check them out on their profile page...if they had responded to one of my discussions, or if they have similar interests, then fine, then I'll add them...if not...delete into cyberspace

I used to not have guidelines but if these people are just going around and friending for no reason and never posting it's rediculous. I don't accept anyone unless thay have a certain number of posts.

My guidelines are mostly the same as yours except for the star one...I have plenty of friends with low stars because of trolls or by their own choice. I don't deny requests like that immediately though. I just let them stay pending for awhile and see what happens. The sad thing is probably at least 95% of the requests I get from users with a low number of posts do end up getting denied because they either don't post any more, they spam the boards with their posts, or they post so called nonsense posts.

I am not so strict with friend requests. Maybe that's because I don't get so many, unlike you. What I do when I get a friend request is get pleasantly surprised and delighted and pleased that someone asks to be my friend so I approve them immediately, without thinking, without equivocation, without hesitation. If anyone turns out to be bad, I can delete them, right?

I guess I'm a "never say never" kind of person. While guidelines might be good, there always have to be exceptions to the rule. At another site, I had someone show up and immediately ask for a connection. Like you, I check and this person had no posts and his/her profile didn't reveal anything. Luckily I waited to make a decision. A few hours later I got an email from a church friend, asking me if I had seen her friend request.

Actually, I have no standard about accepting friend's request. I just accept and accept! But, this post of yours give me an idea, you are correct that we have to make sure thay they are active before accepting their request otherwise, we are just not helping with each other. Thanks for this highflyingxangel, you are giving me an idea now!

I'll accept someone with low post numbers, IF they are new members. IF they do have some posts, IF they have simular interests. I don't accept someone with low/zero posts that have been members for a while - one of my first requested friends had 8 posts and then hit me with a money making PM. I deleted that person and became more careful after that.

Hi! I also get a lot of friend requests with zero posts and some has less than 50. I accept some and I declined some. Although the point of m accepting is to see if he/she'll be active in a few more days and right now, I'm actually deleting those who hasn't been posting, those with less than a hundred posts also. My only friendship guideline is that the user requesting to be my friend should at least have a 100 posts or several discussions started. :) Cheers!

I honestly don't have any requirements for accepting friend requests. With that being said though, I don't get all that many friend requests. I wish that I did though. I guess the reason I don't get many friend requests is because although I respond to a lot of discussions, I don't start a lot of discussions. I do like for people to have at least 15 or more responses to discussions.

i accept them all.....i collect them.....kind of like animal heads on the wall of a hunters den.

I understand this. Just a moment ago I got a request from someone that had no posts. Why would I accept that person knowing that they probally wouldnt be very active, in my discussions I start lol. I dont think their is anything wrong with looking at their star either. So I'm a lot like you in accepting friends!

Oh.... i am very new here. I didn really request any new friend. But for those who request me, i juz added them into my list! erm.... i just find it weird why there's some condition or requirement to be added as friend, hehe no harm but juz curious why it is happening here :p

I'm new to MyLot. Of course, you can tell by looking at my little bitty number. Let me give you all a little perspective from this side of the subject. When I go to a new site, I start reading discussion boards. If it is interesting to me I will probably comment upon it. Then I will go to another discussion. If I keep seeing particular members posting in the discussion boards that I hit, then I figure that we must have some common interests. That is when I will request you as a friend. I can't be depending upon YOU requesting me as a friend because, obviously, you don't know that much about me yet and you've probably not even read my comments. I do not like to start right off with starting discussions. I figure I'm the new kid on the block and I need to get a feel for the site and the kind of people who are its members. Somewhere down the line, I will most likely put up an original discussion subject and see what kind of response I get. If I feel that it's being rejected, then I'll just do a little more browsing and commenting until the old light bulb goes off again and I gain a little more confidence. And I do thank those of you who have accepted the friend request already from this newbie.

I usually will go ahead and add the person but I sometimes go through my friends list monthly and delete those that are no longer active for awhile except for the family because sometimes they use the Private messages to talk to me since I am on so often and check stuff faster from mylot then other sites. If the person hasn't made a effert to make or respond to post then I will and have deleted them. My guideline is only one really stay an active member and I won't delete them I have alot of people on my friends list but not alot answer any of my discussions. I try to answer alot I have alot of notifcations turned on so many that if I didn't check my mail daily that I would have over a hundred discussions in my email. They are some I don't answer though but 99% I do.

hello highflyingxangel, i too get annoyed when i get flooded with those money making opportunities and more importantly i feel like i could just delete them.... but still i think that there is no value in making such anger out and nothing is going to happen. well we should make friends to those people who are genuine and remain here to do some serious posting. have a good day.

I use to accept anybody as friends until I read a discussion about people who have no discussions wanting friends for spamming. I had never thought of that. Every now and then I will get a request like that. If they have no discussions I don't accept them.

I also have friend requests waiting for my approval and I still am not accepting them because they have zero posts...I heard about trolls here and so to avoid those trolls, I don't accept friend requests of people with very low number of posts. I find it suspicious...Oh well, that's just me.

Well I've only been here a month now, and I'm not really picky or anything when it comes to friends. I just like meeting people and responding to their discussions and if i feel like it I'll send them a friend request or accept theirs. Well that what i thought i should do. I can't really be on mylot every single day, to reach 100 post, i work five days a week. I use the work computer. Does that mean if i ever send you a friend request in the feature i may not be accepted? And by the way how do i get a star?

I have a few friends here. The majority asked me. I accepted them because we have things in common and I'm impressed with the way they respond. It doesn't take much to see if a person is educated or not, nor does it take a lot to see if they have something to say worth reading or not. I will not accept or deny any friend requests based on amount of posts or what their star is like. It is solely based on what they have to say and how they say it.