abuse in the name of love
By gypsyheart
@gypsyheart (2)
India
May 21, 2008 1:47am CST
how is it possible to declare undying love to a person and in the same instant subject them to the most inhuman treatment imaginable.
having been a survivor am constantly analysing my previous experience and am so curious as to what sort of activity goes on in human brain when they are indulging in a violent act.
the only way i could deal with my abuser is by facing him straight up and standing up to him.....showing no sign of fear or intimidation.that is when i realized that i was the stronger person both mentally and physically.
i would like to know how other people have dealt with similar situations.
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5 responses
@nanayangel (7877)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Hi there gypsyheart!
I am having a really hard time how people can be violent much more be violent to those who they say, are people that they really love.
I am happy for you, that you have found your strength and stood up against violence. I wish that more people will be like you.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
21 May 08
My ex husband was an abuser but not physically but psychologically. He introduced his current girlfriends and let me see them kiss. Would face my while he was saying sweet nothings to the girl..It's better to be hurt physically because wounds heal. But when mentally, you will remember the scars forever. Yes, it would heal in time but it will always be there to haunt you. After 5 years of being a martir, I was numb. Finally when I got the strength and got my mind set up,I fought back and he wasn't expecting that. Much more when I left...I hope some women out there who are experiencing this kind of abuse, would seek help so they may have the courage to finally set things right.
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
23 May 08
Very well said!!! I had to learn a long time ago o confront the issue, or die of fear. Psychological is as bad as physical. LOvE? What a perverse, twisted definition of love that is, if it's love at all. It's not love, it's crap!!
@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
23 May 08
That's must have been difficult, gypsy heart. No one deserves to be treated that way and I am grateful that you finally got out of that relationship. They say that women (in general), stay in an abusive relationship because they lack self-esteem. We all want to be loved, and that's what we should all get. We should never allow anyone to hurt us that way; I believe we won't let that to happen if we truly love ourselves. Have a great day!
