When someone important forgets..............

When i was growing up my birthday being in dec.(4th) was not celebrated in my family (my grandmothers would tell me happy birthday if i was around them). My brothers birthday was nov.29, he had a cake every year (sometimes i was allowed to attened and sometimes my sister would sneak me a piece of cake to the bedroom). my parents explained that my birthday was to close to christmas to waste money on but that the other three kids birthdays weren't. I never thought much about it and never expected a cake or anything so no my feelings wouldn't have been hurt but if you are used to being remembered then i can understand why you were dissappointed. Your Mom may have been the one to remind him of dates and such and that is why he forgot.Maybe if for christmas you made him a calender with all the relavent dates on it for next year he may do better.

It's not happened to me personally, and it must be really upsetting for you and it sounds like you've had a very very difficult time of it lately. Do you think your emotions are more raw than usual because of still grieving for your mum, and could it be possible that (even though he might not always show it) your dad is so deep in his own grief, that it slipped his mind? I can understand that it's awkward too from the point of do you let your dad know that he forgot or do you leave it just for this year - I'm not sure I know the answer to that, as on the one hand he might want to be told, yet on the other hand it might upset you both even more - him to think he forgot you, and you having to go through the difficulty of bringing the subject up with him. I wish you all the best and hope that he remembers, even if it is a few days late. Many Happy Returns for yesterday!