Are you getting a hard time to be on your in-laws house?

I am sorry that you are having a hard time going to your in laws house. How often do you visit and for how long? Have you thought of trying to lessen the trips or time spent there. Your sister in law sounds like she is a little younger then you or is atleast acting like it. I think that you might be better with not allowing the children to play as much if your sister in law quarrels with you an dis not seeming to alleviate herself.... Especially if you are having a hard time holding your temper

My motherinlaw cannot tolerate me.She wants to keep me with herself after marriage. His son will come on saturday and visit me.I denied this thats why they do want me. Before my marriage I have cleary told them that I will stay with my husband. They then accept it. My sister in law just want to broken the relationship between me and his brother. Actually she didnot want that her brother will start a married life.She wants all her brother property will go to her son.

Always the childrens fight should not be affected by the elder peoples relations. The eleders should not interfier in the kids fight at all. if the elders interverntion is there in between the kids fight, the next day, the kids become very close friends but the elders will not be in a position to face each other. So, you just ignore the kids fight matter, and let it go, when ever you go to your in laws house, u just don't bother about your kid, let him play somewhere, ever if you cry due to the fight, you just hold him/her and make him alright by giving chocklete or something what he likes. Don't get temper, and lose your relationship with your family members, hardly this use to happend once in a week or fortnight may be.. you just ignore it.. then only your relationship with other members of the family will be good, if you too get tempered and talk loudly, then your name may should get spoiled in the mind of the other family members of your in-law's family.