I love my Mom but,,,
By jasmine0728
@jasmine0728 (677)
United States
June 8, 2008 3:27am CST
I know she loves me she just has a hard time showing it.She has never once said the words I love you to me,and if I say that to her she will not say it back.She only in the past 5 years allowed hugs,she is 73 years old,I am 41.She makes it clear when on the phone with her that she really would not be chatting.She acts this way to 4 out of six of her children the other two,the oldest ones, she does not speak to at all,she has not spoken to them in many years,nor does she bother with their children.
I don't think she got hugs and told I love you as a child herself.Fortunately 5 of us were able to hug our own children and tell them we love them,and the odd thing is my mother has no problem hugging the grandchildren she bothers with,although I don't think she tells them she loves them either.
Jas
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@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
8 Jun 08
our parents are like that, most of them dont show their true feelings but they love us, it is because they think showing their affection may show themselves as weak. times ahve change and yes, we are a lot more emotional now, right?
my mom is like that too, but she always asks about us, and always talks to us...your mom maybe different but just try to understand her and dont give her the same treatment she gives you. she needs all your love and care, you know.
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@vicneedscoffee (1259)
• United States
8 Jun 08
My mom is 71 and the same way. I have only seen her tell my 12 year old daughter she loves her a couple of times. I have never heard her tell anyone else that. She is not a huggy type person, either. Her sister is quite the opposite and always affectionate so I don't know why my mom isn't. I have never asked her. They were raised together so you would think they would be more alike.
I am affectionate with my daughter. I get a hug or a cuddle every day. I kiss my daughter goodnight most nights and always tell her I love her. I am not a huggy person, either. I only hug those very close to me, but am free with my affection to those close to me. I don't know, just one of those weird things, I guess.
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@jasmine0728 (677)
• United States
8 Jun 08
thank you for the response.I know what you mean ,my mothers sister was different also,but she was always drinking so maybe the booze made her less inhibited.LOL.
Jas
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
8 Jun 08
That is so sad, not only for her, but for her children also. I am glad that you and most of your siblings overcame that type of childhood and are able to show your children that you love them. Unfortunately your Mother probably isn't going to change.
@jasmine0728 (677)
• United States
8 Jun 08
Thanks for the response.It is o.k. with me that she isn't going to change I only let it get to me sometimes.She didn't abuse me or anything and worked hard to take care of us I think that was how she showed us love.
Jas
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