culture shock vs reverse culture shock.

wow, that's good to hear that you still passed. so later you studied in Bandung?
and then when you ever went back to riau, did you meet a situation like 'reverse culture shock'?

I moved from west district to north district of Jakarta when I was a high school student. and then, four years later, I moved back to west district but another area, and I felt the culture shock again.

when I graduated from university, I had to work at the north district again, the exact same district, and got the 'reverse culture shock' because I felt strange towards the change of the north area. there was a big change and I felt I was totally an alien being there. LOL.

no..
i studied in Depok then.
actually i am kind of person who can easily adapt to the new environment.
i can easily feel at home at most places.
so it's not a big deal for me.

there's funny thing i ever experience for moving within the same city.

once when i was at 12/13 yrs old. my family found new house to live.
when i went back from school i always forget the direction to come back home. i pass through my old house accidentally.

it happens again when i move my kost from depok to jakarta. when i went back home from office i took the bus to depok rather than to my new place.

it's funny..

It is really worse than when u left it.When I was a child,I stayed with my parents in countryside,people lived in there were very kindly,friendly.But now,I living in a big city,here there r a lot of people who came from different region.We do not know each other,even though ur neighbor.Sometimes I feel lonely and helpless.

Well, welcome to myLot, james! I know it is even worse when you are raised in the country and then move to the city. I know how cold and heartless cities can be.

But at least you have found myLot! There are many, many wonderful people here and we are all one big family ready to laugh with, cry with, support lean on you. We are always here for each other, so I'm glad you found us!

When you're feeling lonely, just come here. I know you will make many wonderful friends.

Again, welcome!

hi mentalward and James_fan,

Welcome to myLot, James_fan. Yeah, people in cities tend to mind their own business and some people even feel annoyed if a stranger tries to behave too friendly in the beginning. But not all people in the cities are living this way, and I hope you will meet good people and neighbors in person.:)

I guess everywhere in this world most people would always find similar culture shock and reverse culture shock situation when they move from a city to the country or vice versa.

Yes cities are colder and heartless. And it always makes me wonder on how the cities have still attracted the country people to move to the cities. The blinking of luxurious life promises, perhaps? But when they have their lives adjusted to the cities, then visit the country again, the country people would find them “have changed totally” and sometimes the country people couldn’t accept the “new” them.

So I guess that both sides do have culture shocks in this case, both direction culture shock, probably I should say. It’s difficult to stay the same as we were, but mostly the person doesn’t even realize that he/ she has changed either.

It seems like even when we still live in the same city but move to a different district, we would also face the culture shock.

I spent my childhood in western district of Jakarta, Indonesia, and then moved to a part of northern district (still at the same city, Jakarta) and found the culture shock for the first time.

Western district’s people were like the countryside people, the neighbors would recognize each other, they would greet each other. However, the northern district ones were cold and so self centered, just imagine, after four years living there, we never even knew the names of the neighbors that lived next to our home. The only neighborhood people we knew back then were the doctor that lived nearby, and some security officers that worked nearby. Where were the rests? Well, they went to work so early, and came home very late at night. They had their kids being picked up by baby sitters and the baby sitters even rarely brought the kids to play outside.

It sounds like Japanese house owners let the guests changed their shoes into the sandals prepared by the owners of the houses before letting them enter in. Interesting. Reading your explanation, now I wonder if that was also the reason behind the sandals’ usage for the guests.

Yeah, modern lifestyle will change people’s customs as well.