being friends with your ex- boyfriend... is it okay or not?

it depends if the beakup was mutual, then it's ok to be friends or if you have kids together, you dont have to be friends but you have to be civil becuase you'll be in each others lives forever. But if it was a breakup because someone got hurt then it'll be hard. I think about that all the time about me and my boyfriend. If we were to ever breakup, it would be because of his doing. and i dont think i culd be his friend cause i would be hurt and i would be thinking about how we would still be together if it wasnt for him.

Well, i understand what you mean. yes it is hard to be friends with our ex-who hurts us so much. I experienced this before. I was hurt so much when he found another woman and left me behind the scene. Oh!! I was challenged of what he did. I set a goal for myself to become somebody someday and make him regret of what he did. I made it. I became successful very far from what he knows about me. Of course he wants to make friends with me but I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting what he did. It took me 20 years to totally forget and forgive him. It is not easy but I was able to.. when I am in a different level of my career. I know it is not good to be hard.. but I can;t help it. Now we are fine.... We have both our own families. With this, I understand what you mean. I have been there but it is also good to have peace of mind. So, forgiving would help us to have peace.