Anger or Persuasion......Which Do You Use?

You are right about this one. When we are angry it just wastes time. We might as well spend the time discussing the issue instead of arguing over it. I think that when we can express ourselves the other person then can see our side of the story. We also can see their side too. This helps to build good relationships too. Communication is the key.

i persuade till people change their minds and choose what i want

Well i have agree with you, but i cant deny the fact that, i sit down and talk to him about some issue, he is like, okay i 'll consider it, no matter how important the situation might be, but as usual he delays, and im all screaming and shouting, and at once the work is done, its a repeated thing.

whe every one is hollering all at once very hard to get over a point I wait til they all shut up then Holler at them lol finally they listen and it seems like we dont holler it never gets across specially when they are acting smart and trying no to listen

Actually negotiation works for me and the hubby?
When we do not agree, we get out 3 pieces of paper. On one he write everythng he wants. On another I do the same. Then we sit together, switxh papers and look at what the other person wants. Then we negotiate things out, so we both get a part of what we want, but no one gets everything!
It doesn't take more than a few minutes to do and it's worth feeling like we are working as a teem. Has worked 25 years for us! Avoids a lot of hassles and arguments!
Give it a try! You usually both come out of it with a big HUG!

persuation always works better than anger for me as the topic can stay more rational this way without me loosing my rag and giving up by walking away

I ever use ager to get my point across. Sure anger motivates me, but only o think. I wat to be in control of my anger so my anger doesn't control me. Anger forces me to take stock of a situation and control myself, so that I won't say or do something stupid that will only make the situation worse. If more people took anger as the warning sign I do, there would be a lot less stupidity in the world.