How was I to say yes? Or would I say no?
By anex08
@anex08 (868)
Philippines
July 1, 2008 9:06am CST
My best friend is in great doubt and really needs help. Her family is like an old spanish-filipino family who are prone to arranging marriage and mingling with their children's love life. Since college, this best friend of mine was not being into relationship which is open home. Meaning, she got boyfriend but always hiding afraid enough that she will hurt and cause bad luck to her family particularly her parents. and now, since she is 27 years old, her marriage was arranged by their closest family friend a guy whom he only met for 1 week because he stays in California. This guy, promises everything a financial goodness of living. But my friend has true love, her family knew that but disapproved the guy. Reason are all financial.
Now, she stays crying all night, do not know what to do. Do not have the courage to say no and does not have any courage to follow her heart. I advise her to decide weather she is willing to risk financial stability to proved that she have a heart and have a right to fall in love. Or just stay put, follow her parents and be financially stable.
I ask her what is her decision, she said nothing yet...I understand what she is feeling right now and I hope I could help her decide better..
Has anybody here has same kind of experience? please share honest thoughts... we need it really badly...
1 response
@saivenkaat802003 (4823)
• India
20 Jul 08
What decision has your friend made at this time?
I have been brought up, in a society like that of your friend, where arranged marriages are still in vogue, and the children are really afraid to talk open heartedly to there parents.
I don't think the parents will look only the financial status only, in fixing a wedding, surely they would have considered the other factors too.
If, the man she loves is really in love with her, and is willing to take care of her, and give her a good life, why not he approach the girls parents and try to convince them.
If they agree.. then its good.. If they are still stubborn.. then there is no use in waiting for the parents approval..
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
My friend had decided to go where her heart lead her and make her happy. She did not take her parents decision but rather follow what she really wants to do. At this time the family is still under confusion and what my friend done is not yet forgiven but I think as the time pass by her parents will forgive her afterall she was their child. Im just happy that she made a decision out of her own.
