Would you end the friendship?

I can relate to this topic for I have that has done this to me as of now ( most recently ) He was a good friend in the beinning but with in the shy of 5 years that I have known him he has become not a true friend any more. He cuts me down but claims he is only kidding. He rough houses with me I don't like I ask him to stop he dosn't just laughs and keeps at it, he talks rude language wise to me and I think it all just wrong. Well a week and 5 days ago was the last time I talked to him and I told him I was done with how he treated people includeing myself. We haven't spoken since then and just today his name and number show up on my caller I.D. I didn't answer it I want him to really think about what I have said and not think just because it's been a little over a week that I am going to give in to him for I am not. Friends are suppose to be there for eachother to be loyal and stand by your side not do all the things like I have mentioned. I used to be able to share and voice my opinion to him all the time but nope can't do that any more. I don't know why he has changed like he has but I miss and want the old friend I once knew that was nice and understanding back but doubt I'll ever get it.

My friends and I would have to have boh changed pretty drastically for us to think about ending the friendship. I do have some riends that seem to work in phases. Some days we get along better than others, and we all have diferent ideas at diferent times, ut nothing has ever changed us enough to be on totally different wavelengths.

Sometimes when this happens more than likely your friend is going through something themselves and do not know how to share or discuss it so they clam up and become stand offish. Do I or would I end a friendship when thinks get this way? NO.... I been that friend where I felt I was in a dark hole and no way out I didn't want to be near my family and friends feeling they wouldn't understand because I myself really didn't understand what was going on. Thing is you have to remember a friend is someone that is your friend through the good the bad and the ugly. So if you end it when they stop talking then you wouldn't be a very good friend either now would you? If they stop talking don't pressure them don't chase em down just be there when they wanna talk. Oh btw sometimes they could be depressed and this could cause a lot of the probs...been there done that.

I have ended a few friendships in my life because they were too painful to bear. I am not proud of my decisions but there's no point continuing a friendship if I suffer and the other person is happy that I'm miserable. I couldn't understand why a person who's supposed to be my good friend would betray me because I did nothing hurtful to her. I guess we can never please everyone.

Oh boy do I understand where your coming from with this. I have this person in my life who for some reason just doesn't believe anything that comes from my mouth. They feel that everything I say and do is either a lie, cheating, selfish gain or something along those lines.

They are constantly putting me down and really I am sick of it. They complain all the time that I am this and that but yet never really say whats on their mind. Constant banter towards me and really I don't care anymore.

I think friends are friends no matter what, I always attempt to accept people for who they are I know some people have had a rough time through life which has made them bitter to some degree, sometimes jeolous of what others have regardless if they have worked hard to achieve their current situation.

This person in my life is constantly telling other people that they want to end the friendship but yet to my face they never say a word. I value the friendships I hold in my heart but this one person stands out among all my friends and feels their way of thinking is the right way that all the other people in my life are wrong.

They have convinced everyone around them what a horrible person I am and they are starting to agree with this person well those who don't know me and listen to only this persons banter about me.

If someone feels this much "hatred" towards someone maybe they should bow out gracefully from someones life they obviously don't deserve the friendship nor do they know how to treat a friend.

Really think about it, friends stand beside their friends not stab them in the back and attempt to turn everyone around them away from them? Isn't that what a friend is?

I don't really know but I know in my heart the friendship meant something to me but I know the closeness is going and that this person will ultimately end the friendship after their "job" is done for the lack of a better word.

This person isn't happy until they are destroying someone elses life. They strive on the unhappiness of others to make themselves feel like they are better.

Oh they are convincing they put on a big show but those who analyze can see through their act and usually end up on the winning end because they can play into their garbage so they don't look like the bad guy.

Turn the tables, be there for them, do everything they think you aren't. Then end the friendship because if you have to work too hard at keeping a relationship alive it really isn't worth the effort.

Good Luck I hope you make the right decision...sorry for my rant but gosh did it feel good to get it all out.

Yes friendships should insprire us and enhance our lives. If they don't It's difficult to end any relationship especially a friendship. In our hearts we know when it's time to put an end to them. Friendship is truly a wonderful thing, but it is not a marriage. There is no legal written document that says you must remain friends with someone who is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated as a friend. Ending a close friendship is not an easy thing to do but sometimes it is the wise thing to do because if you cannot find reasonable ways of dealing/coping with your toxic friend, remaining in the relationship could do more harm than good!
My former toxic friend had used me for her own personal gain for the duration of the friendship. I should have walked away a week after I met her because that's how soon she started to use me but we developed a very close bond immediately; were we inseparable. So I justified her negative & unhealthy behaviors by reminding myself that she was "such a nice person". I realized much later that being excessively nice to people was how she hooked her victims. Sometime during the friendship, I also learned that I was not her first victim, I was just the latest. You see, my former toxic friend had a history of making a new friend almost every year. Unfortunately, those friends got fed up with her and eventually they became her acquaintances as opposed to the close friend as she once referred to them all. My former friend told me that those once close friends had all backed away from her. I could clearly understand why. I should have done the same. She would always say to me that I was the one who stayed around the longest and "put up with her". In reality, I was suppose to walk away a year after I met her just like the others had done, because that's how often she changed close friends. Afterall, that's who she was...

I rarely end a friendship unless it's come to a point in the friendship that it's just not healthy anymore. If both people involved in the friendship aren't on the same page and one is always putting the other down, or telling them they are doing wrong, or trying to make them doubt their own values they aren't good friends.

They aren't accepting the other person for who they are they are trying to change them into something totally different that's not a friend.

If I wanted a teacher I would go back to school I want a friend and friends make memories not hurt.....