At a loss...

Oh how sad. I was at a loss too, after reading this. Is she not a part of the bank account? Like a joint savings account? Maybe you could just help her to get by. In the meantime, why not seek legal advice on this? Why not call on the guys parents? I'm sure they would want to help, knowing that their grandchild is at stake too.

It's so sad that he had to be abusive to think that he was the one who cheated. I've always believed that once a guy hurts a woman, they can do it again anytime so if I were her, I'd get the fastest way out of the relationship. Of course, if I were in her shoes, I'd bring this matter to the courts and I would make sure he would have financial obligation for the child. Not for me but for the child.

i hope you're friend, and her child, will be okay soon.

It could have been much easier if they don't have a son. But as this is the case, I guess the best advice I could give her, through you, is to help her find support for her and their son by letting her parents know. It's a tough decision and I'm fully aware that this is easier said than done.
If for example, her parents are also not in a good financial status right now and they could only support her with food and shelter, maybe it will help asking for some of your common friends to help in terms of money. A portion or a small amount will definitely go a long way when combined together.
Online or here in the mylot community, all we could offer and give her are prayers and good wishes for her and her son. It's heartbreaking, personally, as a child is affected with all the situations happening around him. I must admit that I'm almost in tears as I read your discussion and while I'm answering to this now. I'm only controlling my emotions as I'm here in the office doing all of this.
I fervently hope and pray that she will get over this dilemma the soonest possible time. May the Lord be with her and her son always and may He keep them in His care.

Your friend is in a very difficult situation now. She should ask some advice from a lawyer. If she has no money to pay for the consultation, she can go to the public attorney's office located usually beside your town's city hall. This is a very serious case and that I know, your friend is in the good side. Justice is at hand for her and her kid.

Does she have access to the account? If she does she should just withdraw some.
The only alternative I can see is her trying to get some government assistance. If she is completely broke maybe she will get expedited service. Than she should get a lawyer for financial help with her son.
Did she work and is some of that money she earned? If so she could try and get some of that money back.
The only way to help is be there when she needs you to be there. And you are. That means a lot. Probably more than you will ever know.

WOW! I'm so sorry to hear of the that kind of trouble. Shame on him to turn that way on a person that is the mother of his child.

I think that the main thing that you can do right now is to be her friend and to off your love and support during this tremendously difficult time. Another thing is what about taking the dog to court for child support. It may be difficult as money is so tight but I bet an attorney out there could work with her to get what she needs to survive. Maybe we have an attorney here at MyLot or something that can give some advice as well.

Either way I wish you the best of luck and strength in helping your friend right now.

She is in a bad situation but I hope she is learning a very serious lesson here.WHy would she put her money in his bank account??Anyway that is not the issue here.Just try and be there for her and let her know that yo are there to help her in any way other than financially.

I'm so sorry for your friend. Her situation is really hard.
Why don't she try to ask help from her relatives. Maybe one
of them will lend her money. Your being there when she needed
you most is enough to let her know that she can always depend
on you. Not in financial matters though but emotional support.
Cheer up don't be sad you have to be strong for her.

I'm really sorry for your friend, I think the best you can do now is give her support and ask her to inform both party parents. Because at least the guy parents should know what their son did, and also maybe your friend can get back her share of money from that guy thru his parent. By the way, you didn't mention does your friend got a job?? if not, you can help her by trying to find her a job, because it's really hard to get by if she don't have income now, especially she has a son to take care of.

I'm sorry to hear that your friend is hurting. If she's a friend of yours she must be a really good person. Like the others said, really all you can do is be there for her, give her a shoulder to cry on and such. And of course if you know somebody who could go and smack that guy around a bit, that wouldn't be such a bad thing. I'd probably go after the tramp he was messing with too. Because I'm sure that after being with him behind your friend's back for a year, she MUST have known about your friend. Therefore, she deserves a couple of slaps too.
Of course, we really can't get away with giving people the beatings they deserve becasue bail is expensive, so really all you can do is make sure your friend knows that you are there for her emotionally.

This is a sad situation how can he do this to her?. I was in a situation like this where my better half was cheating on me but we never had joined bank accounts thank god. We had a 4 year old at the time he ended up takeing him with him but I do get to see my so when ever he allows me to which isn't very often. I never was abuse by him either thank god. I can only imagine what this poor girl is going through. Her best bet is to get legal advice on what to do about this amybe she can get money from the government I heard they give away free money all the time.
They give money for everything you can think of the website is governmentmoney.com I believe. I will double check it to make sure but they can help her. I do wish her the best of luck and let her know that help is out there she just needs to remin calm and look cause she won't be able to do so if she is all in a panic. Let me double check that site for you and I will get back to you.